She wants a stylish haircut but her religious mother forbids it. This daughter takes to Reddit to vent! Let’s hear her story.
A Devout Mother
The Original Poster (OP) is a 17-year-old whose mother is a devout Christian who adheres to conservative values.
Her dad also leans toward conservatism but doesn’t hold tight to his beliefs.
OP’s mother converted to Christianity when OP was 14 years old which caused her entire demeanor and worldview to alter.
Waist Length Hair
OP says that she has only trimmed her hair twice when she was 12 and now she wants it cut to her shoulders length as it has reached her waist.
She’s Begged to Have It Cut Short
OP told about this to her mother last year but she told no. OP kept on asking and begging to let her get a haircut but she was firm in her decision. After some time OP gave up.
The Story Takes a Rebellious Turn
The story took a turn when recently OP brought it up once more.
OP’s mother was acting like OP was being rebellious.
Unfeminine and Sinful
She didn’t listen and thinks that cutting the hair is sinful and will make OP appear unfeminine and unattractive.
Men Finding Her Attractive Is Important
The mother went on to say “Men are attracted to women with long hair” and that cutting the hair will make OP look like a man.
She Likes Keeping Fit
OP also added that she started doing Crossfit when she was 14 and did it for a while. OP wanted to do it again as she doesn’t participate in any extracurricular activities.
Her Mom Disapproves of Muscle Tone
However, when she told her mother, she refused. She believes OP will grow up to be a huge, muscular, manly, and unattractive woman.
But OP said that she wants to get leaner by losing fat and CrossFit will help her, but her mother refused to listen.
Her Dad Won’t Stand Up to Her Mom
OP says her father approves of the haircut and is content to spend $35 a week on Crossfit lessons.
But OP’s dad doesn’t press the matter because her mother won’t listen and he doesn’t want to argue with her.
Her Mom Won’t Even Listen
OP says her mother will become upset if she tries to talk to her dad on a subject they disagree on, even if it’s just to hear his opinion.
Everything Is Sinful!
The mother has questioned OP in the past saying OP is trying to disrupt their marriage and told OP that it is a sin and an act of disobedience.
OP feels suffocated and sad about the whole thing and she took to Reddit to ask whether she would be wrong if she spoke to her father about this and took his permission to get the haircut.
Weak Dad, Toxic Mom
Hundreds of Reddit comments poured in supporting OP and many said that the mother is toxic and that OP is not wrong.
One Reddit user wrote, “Not wrong whatsoever. But be prepared for your dad to not back you up, it seems like he has no spine to stand up to your mom. If I were you, I’d just go to a salon and get my hair cut. As far as I know, you don’t need a permission slip from your parents to do that.”
They Are Doomed Anyway
Another Redditor pointed out that as OP is 17, she is definitely old enough to make her own decisions about haircuts and exercise classes. The comment read, “If speaking to your dad about a haircut is going to wreck your parents’ marriage, then they’re doomed for divorce anyway. You’re not causing problems – you’re asking for perfectly reasonable, age-appropriate things.”
She Will Lose Her Temper but Don’t Let That Stop You
A third Reddit user wrote, “Be ready for your mom to lose her temper on y’all. I dealt with something similar from my mom at your age, ended up going through with the haircut and stuff anyway and she wouldn’t talk to me for days. Regardless, you deserve to be able to exist in your house without being shamed for a haircut and exercising. I’d go for it, do what makes you happy”
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