Controlling Boyfriend Wants Everything Done His Way: Should She Leave Him?

A Reddit user shares her story of her boyfriend being picky about how things are done around the house and her becoming tired of it.

Cohabiting

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The original poster, Donna, explained that she and her boyfriend have been living together for two years.

Red Flags

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Before they moved in together, Donna noticed that he paid careful attention to his belongings.

No Touching His Things

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He would tell Donna not to push the window of his car when she was closing the door but to use the handle.

He also told her not to touch his computer monitor with her fingers.

Things Get Worse

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Donna said she did what he said because they were his things, and she wanted to be respectful.

After they moved in together, it got worse.

Can’t Do This, Can’t Do That

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Donna wasn’t allowed to crush garlic with the side of a blade anymore because he said it might damage the blade later on.

She can’t put any hot objects on the counter or sink because they might leave permanent marks.

So Many Rules

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She can’t put her small flower pots on the windowsill because they might scratch it.

Cooking and Cleaning

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Donna said that since her boyfriend works a lot, she is the one who does the cooking and cleaning.

Too Much to Bear

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She tries to follow what he says because it’s his house, but she says that doing the work around the house and listening to his complaints is too much for her.

She Calls Him Out

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She told him that she didn’t think any of these things would actually happen, and if they did, it wouldn’t be a big deal.

A Disagreement

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He lectured her about how these things would eventually damage his house and devalue it.

Donna added that she hasn’t broken any dishes since moving in and that the house was mostly empty when she arrived.

Feeling Unwelcome

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She talked to him and told him that she felt unwelcome in his house.

Controlling Response

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His response was, “Why can’t I tell you to do things the right way!”

Accused of Overreacting

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He told her she was overreacting and forced her to apologize.

Redditors Respond

The Reddit community was quick to take her side.

One user pointed out that he may have some sort of obsessive disorder. “His list of do’s and don’ts is just excessive, and it reveals a truly obsessive or controlling side. In either case, there is no way I’d be able to live like this, and honestly, I’d start the process of moving out unless he’s willing to come to some sort of a reasonable compromise.”

Another user added on, saying, “‘I can’t crush garlic with the blade of the knife because it may loosen the blade one day.’ What the heck is that? Buy a new knife. It is certainly his prerogative to keep his stuff as he likes it. However, you should be aware that this kind of obsessive controlling is likely to continue or get worse as things go on.”

Another user saw both perspectives of the situation. “Listen, some of his concerns are legitimate, putting hot pots and pans right on the counter top can damage it and aside from it being aesthetically not pleasing, it can also impact resale down the line. But to your point some of his complaints are a little extreme. It sounds like he doesn’t actually want to share the home with you and find a middle ground. But you also need to have some common sense too.”

Is Donna right to be annoyed at all of her boyfriend’s requests? Are her boyfriend’s requests legitimate? How would you have reacted in this situation?

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