This guy’s post on Reddit went viral recently when he wanted to find out if he was in the wrong for telling his sister that her four kids would count as her plus one at his wedding.
Guest List Decisions
Our storyteller, a 30-year-old man, is in the middle of planning his wedding and has been facing a difficult decision regarding his guest list.
Due to the small size of the venue, only 105 people would be allowed to attend.
A Rough Patch
However, his older sister, Margaret, has four children and is currently going through a rough patch in her life, having recently broken up with her partner.
She’s moved back into her parents with all 4 of her children while she tries to get back on her feet.
Child-Free Wedding Dreams
The original poster (OP) had initially wanted a child-free wedding, but there was too much drama involved when he and his partner suggested it.
So, for a quiet life, they decided to allow children at the wedding.
This included Margaret’s kids, and he had sent her an invitation that included the names of her four children.
However, when Margaret received her invitation with her kids’ names listed, she called OP and said, “I assume as an adult, I also get a plus one?”
She Can’t Bring a Date
He and his partner explained to her that they had already allotted space for her and her kids, which amounted to about 5% of their total guest list, and that they couldn’t accommodate an additional guest.
The caterer doesn’t charge less for kids, so was already charging OP $400 for the children, and he did not want to spend an additional $100 on a random person that Margaret could bring.
OP also pointed out that Margaret already had four extra guests in the form of her children, so surely that should be enough to have fun at a family wedding.
OP’s father supported his decision, as he was tired of Margaret taking up space in their house, but his mother was more sympathetic to her request.
Margaret argued that she could easily find a date or bring a friend to have someone to dance with, but OP and his partner stood their ground and refused to allow her to bring a plus one.
OP felt that spending an extra $100 on someone he didn’t know was unreasonable.
OP’s main concern was not the cost, however, but rather the fact that he did not want a stranger at his wedding – especially with the limited capacity!
He and his partner were paying for the entire wedding themselves and wanted to ensure that every guest was someone they knew and liked.
OP is not expecting a gift from Margaret or anything like that. He just wants to keep his wedding within his budget and make sure he’s able to invite the people he and his partner really care about.
If Margaret were in a serious relationship or not bringing four kids, it’d be a no-brainer.
But as it is, they’re not close, and he’s already spending $500 on her and her kids to be there.
He’s Torn Over His Decision
It’s a tough situation, and OP is not sure what to do.
He’s torn between his mom’s sympathy for his sister and his dad’s frustration with her.
He wants to make sure that his sister feels included and loved, but at the same time, he doesn’t want to break the bank.
A Tricky Situation
Weddings are expensive, and every guest adds to the cost. It’s important to set and stick to boundaries, even if it means upsetting a family member
Can’t Make Everyone Happy
At the end of the day, weddings are expensive and stressful enough without having to worry about accommodating everyone’s requests.
OP has to make a tough decision, but ultimately he has to do what’s best for him and his partner. He can’t please everyone, and that’s okay.
Was He Right to Refuse?
Reddit users thought this guy was already paying a ton of money for his sister and her kids to be there and didn’t need to spend more.
Do Whatever you Want
They believed that it was OP’s wedding and he needed to invite the people he wanted there, not people to make his sister happy. Her kids are going, at great expense to OP, and his sister should be happy with that outcome.
One user said, “I think you’re being VERY generous allowing her FOUR CHILDREN to attend…and she had the nerve to ask for an additional person?? Wow. She’s a bit demanding, isn’t she?”
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