A father recently took to a subthread on Reddit to ask the community whether he was in the wrong for telling his girlfriend she’s not allowed to tell his daughter what she can and can’t wear.
A Camping Trip
Mac explains that he was leaving town for a camping trip.
Bonding Time
He left his 16-year-old daughter and long-time girlfriend at home together for the weekend while he was away.
A Happy Family
Mac said he has been with his girlfriend for over three years, and they decided to move in together six months ago.
A Storm Is Brewing
Usually, everything is fine between the three, but drama ensued after he left for the weekend.
Daughter Gets Ready for a Party
Mac had given his daughter approval to go to a party on Saturday.
However, the girlfriend had something to say when the daughter was ready to leave and join her friends at the party.
A Problem With the Way She Is Dressed
He explained that when his girlfriend saw what the daughter looked like, she immediately made her change out of her “provocative” clothing and wash off her makeup.
A Huge Fight
The outfit caused a huge fight when Mac returned from his camping trip and discussed what had happened.
He and his girlfriend have hardly spoken since.
Raising His Daughter Single-Handedly
As a widower and single father, Mac feels he is responsible for raising his daughter and ensuring that she is well taken care of.
Keeping Control
This may lead him to be protective of his daughter and to want to maintain control over her upbringing and well-being.
Girlfriend’s Influence
Understandably, Mac might feel frustrated or upset when his girlfriend tries to step in and tell his daughter what to do.
The Girlfriend’s Perspective
On the other hand, it’s also important to consider the girlfriend’s perspective.
A Place in the Family
As someone in a relationship with Oliver and likely spends a significant amount of time with his daughter, she may feel that she has a stake in the daughter’s upbringing and well-being.
A Role Model
She thinks she could be a role model
Good Intentions
She may see herself as trying to help and support the daughter and may not understand why Mac is preventing her from doing so!
Forming an Identity
The daughter’s clothing and makeup issue raises additional questions about the role of Mac’s girlfriend.
Plus, there’s also the daughter, who, at 16 years old, is at a critical stage in her life where she is starting to form her own identity and figure out who she is.
Freedom to Make Mistakes
It also seems important to fellow Reddit users to respect the daughter’s autonomy and allow her to make her own decisions and mistakes.
Teen Autonomy
This can be difficult. However, it’s also important to recognize that the daughter is growing up and starting to take control of her own life and that she needs to be allowed to do so.
Who Was Right?
The question of whether Mac is right or wrong for telling his girlfriend she’s not allowed to tell his daughter what to do is complex and can’t be answered easily.
Many factors are at play, including the perspectives of all parties involved, the daughter’s age, and the nature of the relationship between Mac, his girlfriend, and his daughter.
Father-Daughter Duo
Ultimately, Reddit users seemed to side with the father-daughter duo.
It is not the responsibility of the girlfriend to tell someone else what they can and cannot do with their body in any situation.
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