This mother has asked her adult daughter to contribute to the rent, but she isn’t complying, and every time she reminds her an argument ensues.
Rent Obligation
In this situation, a 50-year-old woman has asked her 24-year-old daughter, Bella to pay rent after living with her rent-free for several months.
Job Search Journey
Bella had recently graduated from college but struggled to find a job until October, and the Original Poster (OP) supported her during this time.
A Job = Rent
Now that she has found a well-paying job, OP has asked her to pay rent to cover some of the family’s expenses.
Saving Money
One day, Bella told OP that she had planned a trip with her friends and saved money for a plane ticket.
Avoiding the Subject
OP reminded her again that she still needed to pay rent, as it appeared she was trying to avoid paying rent so she could save money for her trip.
A Half-Hearted Offer
Bella responded by saying she would pay rent, but wanted to deduct her credit card bill from the rent amount.
She wanted her mother to pay her credit card bill first and then keep the rest as rent.
Displeasure
OP found this unacceptable and expressed her displeasure to Bella, who rolled her eyes and attempted to walk away.
Hurtful Words
During their argument, OP said some unfortunate things in the heat of the moment.
Although she did not remember exactly what she said, she acknowledged it may have been hurtful to her daughter.
She Became Distant
Bella became extremely distant afterward and started working overtime almost every day.
Rebuilding Relationships
OP attempted to talk to her daughter about the situation, but she either ignored her messages or told her how she misunderstood her and made her feel bad.
Differing Perspectives
OP’s husband thought she was wrong, as he believed their daughter was already under a lot of stress and that she was adding to it by constantly reminding her of rent money she didn’t have.
He thought OP was the villain in the situation for demanding rent during a fight.
Deserves More Respect
However, she felt she did not deserve any of the treatment she received from her daughter, as she loved her much and asked her to contribute to the family’s expenses.
She Finally Paid
Eventually, Bella handed her mother a stack of cash that included both the rent and the credit card bill.
More Eye Rolling
When OP tried to tell her that the money would be placed in a family savings account, Bella rolled her eyes and said she didn’t care.
Cut Up the Card
She then cut up the credit card for which OP had been managing the bills. OP’s husband gave her an “I told you so” look, but OP still felt she was in the right.
Not In the Wrong
She did not think she had crossed any lines during their argument and believed her daughter needed to learn responsibility.
Have Fun, Pay Rent
EmmaHere wrote, “This is my own opinion, but I would have told my kid to have fun with their first month’s pay and start paying rent the following month. The constant reminder for rent money before she had been paid sounds stressful and annoying.”
Another said, “Speaking as a parent myself; if you charge rent to your child, there is something wrong with you. There can be exceptions to the rule, but for the most part the concept is insane.”
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