Devout Christian parents live in denial that she’s a happily married woman. They maintain the farce that she’s single instead of acknowledging she’s with someone they don’t approve of. She’s done playing along! Plus one or she’s done!
Raised in a Devoutly Christian Home
The Original Poster (OP) is a 25-year-old married woman who was raised in a devoutly Christian home.
She Was at Odds With Her Mother
OP’s mother and she have been at odds with one another throughout her teenage and young adult life.
She Realized She’d Been Abused
It took OP until she was 18 years old to recognize that her mother had been emotionally abusing her and was using every trick in the book from guilt-tripping to gas lighting to keep OP around.
She Broke Free!
However OP broke free and when she was 22, she wed a non-Christian man.
Inked Husband
Plus, he had tattoos, which was obviously against OP’s parents’ religion.
He Was Not the Son-in-Law They Wanted
OP’s parents have treated them like children since the day they were married out of resentment that OP’s husband is not the stereotypical Southern Christian gentleman they had in mind for OP.
For the Family
Despite being fully conscious of their mute disapproval, OP and her husband were willing to make an effort to make things work for “family’s sake.”
Family Estrangement
But things didn’t work out and OP left and had no contact with her parents for a while.
Mother’s Day Brought Hope
OP saw a glimmer of light when her father invited her to a Mother’s Day lunch recently.
No Chair at the Table for Her Hubby!
OP and her husband traveled three hours to lunch, only to learn that he wasn’t included in the reservation. OP was furious.
But He’s Always With Me!
OP mentioned that her husband always attends lunch invitations to which she is invited.
Not Invited!
There was nothing in the text her father sent her that indicated OP’s husband couldn’t join for Mother’s Day lunch.
Her Husband Just Dropped Her Off
OP’s husband left her off at the meal as he respected their revolting decision.
As If It’s Normal
OP’s family handled the situation as if nothing were amiss.
Elephant In the Room!
The small talk began as soon as she sat down. Her mother was talking about booking a cruise, and OP was shocked that this huge elephant in the room isn’t being addressed.
Phony Excuses
OP conveyed her astonishment and annoyance that they left her husband off the bill when it was texted.
Lame Justification
Her mother supplied the justification that the daughter of one of her closest friends had spent Mother’s Day apart from her husband, which she felt was lovely.
Not Like Other Families!
OP immediately called her out, saying “Since when do we just follow other family dynamics and assume that we are going to copy them.”
Mom’s Plays the Victim!
Then her mother attributed OP’s father’s lack of communication. Her mother began to act like the victim, complaining that she didn’t have access to OP’s current address or phone number.
She Was Told She Was Childish
Then she made it clear that she couldn’t imagine treating OP like an adult because OP had given her so much grief during her adolescence and the no-contact period.
Fixable Family?
A part of OP wants to mend the connection, but a different part of OP doesn’t want to grant her mother the privilege of getting what she wants or give her the approval to do so.
Adult-to-Adult Conversation Only
OP thought about why she should speak with her mother when she doesn’t respect OP as an adult.
Back to No Contact
Now OP is thinking about simply going back to “no contact” because her life was less stressful when she was just being herself and refusing to fall for her mother’s manipulations.
Should She Reconnect?
OP took to Reddit to ask if she is wrong for not wanting to connect with her mother.
Redditors showed their support for OP and said that she was not wrong.
They’re So Judgemental
One Reddit user wrote, “You’re entitled to your feelings. We don’t owe our parents anything just as our children don’t owe us anything. Their own decision to disrespect their spouse based on looks and not the actual character he has or the way he treats them is their choice. They sound judgmental and I don’t blame you here.”
It’s Not Fixable
Another Redditor commented, “Why would you want to fix this?? She sounds manipulative AF. Go be happy with your actual family, your husband, and leave behind all that toxicity.”
Sugar Daddy Transforms This Girl’s Life by Paying off Her Debt, but Was This All Too Good to Be True?
Ever wondered what happens when you reply to scammers and weird Instagram DMs? This woman finds out when she doesn’t ignore a strange offer from a genuine-seeming guy…but soon pays the price of being in his debt! Sugar Daddy Transforms This Girl’s Life by Paying off Her Debt, but Was This All Too Good to Be True?
You Reap What You Sow: Their Children Left Homeless While Their Aunt Sits In Her Large Spacious House! Should She Help?
Never mix family and money! This successful young woman is adamant she doesn’t want the burden of her struggling siblings and their kids. Even if it means they end up on the streets! You Reap What You Sow: Their Children Left Homeless While Their Aunt Sits In Her Large Spacious House! Should She Help?
Revenge: After He Betrayed Her, She Waited Until the Kids Were Grown to Rock Her Husband’s World!
This tale of betrayal and revenge shows that sometimes playing the long game is the best way to hit someone where it hurts. She discovered the ultimate betrayal and waited a decade to show him he should never have messed with her! Revenge: After He Betrayed Her, She Waited Until the Kids Were Grown to Rock Her Husband’s World! See How
Family Secrets: She Found Out Her Parents Are Brother and Sister! But Why Is SHE Being Ostracized by the Family?
Her parents weren’t who they said they were and the truth was far more shocking than she could ever imagine! Family Secrets: She Found Out Her Parents Are Brother and Sister! But Why Is SHE Being Ostracized by the Family?
Mother-In-Law Is About to Have Plans for a Family Vacation Shattered! It’s Time She Quit the Mom-Shaming and Outdated Advice!
When they thought this new mom was sleeping, her mother-in-law and relative began criticizing her parenting. She can’t unhear that judgment and doesn’t want to join them on a family trip. Should she go? Mother-In-Law Is About to Have Plans for a Family Vacation Shattered. It’s Time She Quit the Mom-Shaming and Outdated Advice!
The post Religious Mother Won’t Accept Her Tattooed Husband – Should She Cut Off Her Own Family? first appeared on Wealthy Living.
Featured Image Credit: Shutterstock/ FXQuadro. The people shown in the images are for illustrative purposes only, not the actual people featured in the story.
This post is based on Reddit but the names have been changed.