A woman turned to Reddit to ask if she was in the wrong for her lavish wedding choices when not all of her guests were as financially comfortable.
A Perfect Couple
The Original Poster (OP) and her husband recently tied the knot.
OP comes from a humble background and hails from a small town, where she grew up as the odd one out in her big family due to her inclination toward moving away.
On the other hand, her husband comes from a larger, more financially stable family.
Hostess With the Mostess
One of OP’s favorite hobbies is hosting and entertaining guests.
She believes that making people feel at ease or giving them a pleasant experience is a valuable pursuit in life.
Planning events also brings her immense joy, akin to a grand crafting project.
Planning the Wedding
Her husband enjoys a successful career, and OP herself has been fortunate to build a satisfying professional life.
When they married, they wanted to create a memorable and enchanting event where all their loved ones could meet and celebrate.
A Generous Offer
They made it clear to their guests that gifts were not necessary.
Additionally, OP set up a special fund with her aunt to discreetly cover any expenses for those who wished to attend but couldn’t afford hotel stays, outfits, and other costs associated with the celebration.
A Grand Wedding
To OP and her husband, having a grand wedding was important, even if it might seem wasteful to others.
They planned a three-day celebration, including meals and open bars for a guest list of 300 people.
The festivities featured a brief performance with elements reminiscent of a Cirque du Soleil show, a lively welcome party with a carnival theme for children, gift bags for all attendees, and many unexpected surprises.
Bringing Happiness to Others
Watching everyone revel in the joy of the occasion and seeing the abundance of smiles and happiness brought OP immense pleasure.
The couple made it clear that all parts of the celebration were optional, and they did not judge anyone who chose not to participate in some events or could not afford to attend all three days.
An Awkward Moment
During the final day’s brunch, OP’s aunt pulled her aside to ask for a favor.
She requested that OP console her cousin (G), who had been crying all night and morning.
No Comparison
The cousin was upset because her wedding, set for August, would not match the grandeur of OP’s recent celebration.
She feared that their family would judge her for having a less extravagant event.
Devastated
OP was devastated upon hearing this. She knew from personal experience that their family had always embraced low-key weddings held in barns, recreation centers, or even someone’s backyard.
No one had ever looked down upon these celebrations, and OP never would either, as different styles suit different couples.
Everyone always had a great time, regardless of the venue or the level of extravagance.
Offering Comfort
OP excused herself from brunch to comfort G and spent nearly an hour trying to reassure her.
OP reminded her that a wedding is a celebration of love, not a measure of wealth or status.
OP assured her that the family was excited about her upcoming wedding regardless of the venue or extravagance.
A Shocking Response
After some time, G grew calm and stopped crying.
Suddenly, G looked OP in the eyes and made an unusual statement: “Well, you don’t need to worry about it because you’re not invited anymore.”
She then locked herself in the bathroom, leaving OP stunned.
Stunned
OP returned to brunch only to find that most of the guests had already left.
She couldn’t hold back her tears but didn’t want to make a scene and left as quickly as possible.
Her husband tried to comfort her, telling her not to take it to heart.
Feeling Terrible
However, OP couldn’t shake the feeling that something they worked so hard on to create a fun and memorable experience had ended up making someone they loved feel terrible.
Rubbing Their Faces in It
To make matters worse, OP’s aunt, the mother of G, had started telling people that OP had organized the extravagant wedding to “rub her family’s face in her great, fancy, rich life.”
Feeling a Fool
OP felt sick about the situation. She had been so happy and proud of the celebration, but now she felt foolish.
She couldn’t help but wonder if she had made a grave mistake.
Was She Showing Off?
The Reddit community reassured OP that this was not something done wrong on her side. It was their issue and she should not feel guilty for throwing a great wedding.
Many of the users felt like the family members were trying to make her feel bad in hopes of helping pay for G’s wedding so that she could also have a big wedding. The Reddit community felt like the family’s behavior was far too dramatic and they should be happy for OP.
One comment stated a quote from Eleanor Roosevelt. “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” They felt like this was something OP should focus on as she moves forward from this situation with her family.
What do you think? Was it okay for OP to throw a big wedding party? Leave a comment!
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