In a story of conflicting beliefs and personal experiences, a Reddit user finds himself at odds with his brother after inadvertently convincing his church mentee to leave the church.
The Movie Night
Two weeks ago, Dylan (19) joined his younger brother (18) and his church mentee (15) for a movie night.
He Left the Church
Dylan had distanced himself from the church 5 years ago due to what he perceived as a toxic environment.
He shared that the church gaslit him into thinking he was not doing enough as a Christian and was a bad believer.
Is He Being Lied To?
He believes they lied to him to get him to attend prayer meets and bible studies.
After the movie when they went to have dinner together. During dinner, his brother asked his mentee whether he wanted to join the bible study session the following day.
However, the mentee was hesitant with his answer, and Dylan recognized it.
He Shared His Experience and Told the Mentee to Make a Decision
At a certain point, Dylan’s brother left the other two alone, and the mentee expressed hesitation about church activities. Dylan instinctively shared his own experiences and thoughts.
Commitment To Religion Should Never Be Forced
He opened up about feeling overwhelmed by the church’s expectations and stressed the importance of personal choice, reassuring him that one’s commitment to religion should never be forced.
He Shouldn’t Have To Go If He Didn’t Want To
He told the mentee that he shouldn’t have to go if he didn’t want to, as there’s no minimum commitment requirement for religion.
The mentee took his advice and came up with a last-minute excuse for Dylan’s brother when he returned.
The Mentee Left the Church
Things took a turn the week after when Dylan’s brother confronted him to tell him that his “mentee” left the church because he had encouraged him to do so.
His Brother Was Furious
His brother was furious about what happened and wouldn’t talk to him unless he apologized.
He Didn’t Apologize
However, Dylan was not apologetic and said that if the mentee wanted to leave, he should have every right to do so.
Stop Interfering With People’s Faith
His former church group member texted him, saying he should stop interfering with people’s faith just because he left the church.
You’re Not the One That Needs to Apologize
Dylan took to Reddit to ask whether he was in the wrong for what happened, and several Redditors commented that he was not wrong.
You Just Shared Your Past
One Reddit user wrote, “You shared your experiences with someone who seemed to be struggling with the same church requirements. At least from what you wrote, you didn’t tell him to leave the church. You just shared your past.”
Sounds Very Cultist
Another Redditor commented, “In my opinion, your brother’s religious group sounds very cultist.
All you did was open a younger mind to new possibilities.
He Should Apologize
If anything, your brother should be apologizing to his mentee and yourself for losing his temper.”
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