This sad tale comes from a man who is utterly distraught. His best friend has just told him his wife cheated on him, and he’s in shock and looking for advice.
A Happily Married Couple
The original poster (OP) has been with his wife for seven years but has only recently tied the knot. They built a life together, filled with laughter and adventure, and celebrated with a big wedding.
They have no children, which has allowed them to prioritize their personal life and give each other the love and attention they deserve. His life was perfect, or so he thought.
One weekend, his best friend came over to hang out – a regular occurrence, as all three of them were quite close. They were all drinking and having a great time.
He Checked Out for the Night
OP had only four drinks but was sleepy and passed out around midnight. He woke up at 5:30 am in a panic because his wife was not in bed next to him, and he didn’t know where she was!
There was no reason to suspect infidelity at this point, but OP’s life was about to be turned upside down.
He searched the house and realized that his wife was not there, her phone was still on the table, and the patio door was open. He also noticed that one of their cats was missing.
In a state of double panic, he grabbed her phone and went outside to look for his wife and cat. Luckily (or not so in this case), his friend and his wife were just outside, and they said they were looking for her phone, which OP then handed her.
Where Had She Been?
He quickly asked his wife where she was and why the patio door was open, and she said they were walking around the complex, talking about his friend’s relationship with his serious girlfriend and his move to another city.
He’s been a great friend to OP and, at this point, is one of his best and only friends.
OP spent the next 12 hours looking for their cat! After a terrible night’s sleep and day, walking 17,000 steps through a mild hangover, he found the cat and felt relieved.
A Shocking Confession
They watched TV and hung out that evening, and he felt like everything was okay. But then, the next night, he received a call from his friend, who had to confess something to him. He dropped the bombshell that he and OP’s wife had cheated on him.
He said that they kept drinking way too much, and his wife came on to him. She told him she wanted to have sex with him and put his hands on her. They made out but did not have sex, and he regretted it and stopped before it got too far.
OP was shocked and confused. He had thought his life was perfect, but now he realized it was all a lie!
He spent 12 hours worrying about his missing cat, only to find out that his wife was cheating on him. She hadn’t told him, and he didn’t know what to do.
He Confronted His Wife
He confronted her and his wife apologized and said she didn’t know why she did it, that she was really drunk, and wanted to go to counseling and stop drinking.
OP had never thought that his wife had a drinking problem, but he could remember an old occasion when she had too many drinks and had a disaster.
They had just gotten married, had a big wedding, and were fine financially, but what was the point of all that if his wife was cheating on him?
They weren’t fighting, and their relationship had been amazing. They had worked hard to build their life together, but now it all seemed like a lie.
It All Came Crashing Down
He and his wife had always tried new things, taken on new hobbies and challenges, and traveled to places far crazier than anything they had growing up. They had laughed and cried together and grown into the people they were today together.
What added to his anger was that they were a very pro-communication couple and worked through things together. They’d always reinforce to each other that you build a relationship with hard work and that communication is the bedrock of that work.
He Feels Betrayed
As she didn’t tell him she’d kissed his friend, he felt more betrayed than ever.
Even though he was incredibly stressed, he decided to travel out of town for work that week to use work as a distraction.
He feels like he has done everything right and got nothing back in return.
He had trusted his wife and had put his love all out there. He was so happy, but now he felt sad, mad, and betrayed. He’s numb, taking work calls and putting on an acting face, but struggling to keep it together.
He ended his post by saying, “I just don’t know what I’m supposed to do.”
Reddit users felt for this guy, and the comments flooded with well-wishers offering him support and advice. Perhaps the best advice came from a user who simply said, “Take your time. You don’t have to decide right now. You don’t have to decide next week. You take every second you need.”
What do you think about this guy’s tale? If his wife had issues with the marriage, she should have communicated with him better. But perhaps she didn’t feel heard?
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