In a recent Reddit post, a user found herself in a heated argument with her racist boyfriend regarding religion.
They’re From Different Backgrounds
Sara is from an Asian Muslim background, and her boyfriend is Spanish/Hispanic.
He is an atheist but sometimes “spiritual” and an amazing person. Although Sara is not exactly a practicing Muslim, she does believe in her religion.
He Has Made Racist Comments In the Past
Since the couple has been dating, he has said some upsetting things about Sara’s religion.
She Asked Him About His Doubts
One of the first times this happened, Sara asked him to tell her what about Islam he didn’t like.
The two specific examples he cited were particularly disconcerting. Firstly, he expressed his belief that women have no rights in Islam; secondly, he took issue with the niqab (head veiling).
She Tried to Clarify
Eager to clarify misconceptions and bridge the gap between cultural practices and religious teachings, Sara engaged in a conversation with him.
She explained the distinction between culture and religion, hoping he would gain a deeper understanding.
He Didn’t Listen
Initially, he appeared receptive to her perspective, but it soon became evident that his comprehension was limited, as he continued to make hurtful comments.
He Is an Intelligent Person
What baffled Sara most was that he is intelligent, and fully capable of grasping the concepts she was presenting.
He Kept on Making Insensitive Remarks
Yet, time and again, he reverted to his original way of thinking, disregarding the insights she had shared.
Frustrated And Disheartened
Their discussions seemed to have little impact on his perceptions, leaving Sara feeling frustrated and disheartened.
Moreover, he often used the terms “Muslim,” “Arab,” and “Asian” interchangeably, brushing off Sara’s corrections by saying, “You know what I mean.”
Things Got Worse
To make matters worse, during a recent conversation, he revealed his reservations about “Muslim stuff” if their relationship were to become more serious.
She Tried Her Best
Sara was attempting to enlighten him about the misconceptions he held, explaining that the things he attributed to Muslims were not inherent aspects of the religion.
His distorted portrayal of Pakistan, implying that women were relegated to a life confined within their homes, chained to the kitchen, hurt her deeply.
She Explained the Difference Between Religion and Culture
While she acknowledged that societal progress and gender equality may still be a work in progress in certain regions, it is far from the extreme picture he painted.
She told him that women in Pakistan can study, work, and lead fulfilling lives and possess rights, even if the societal mindset may lag behind.
She’d Had Enough
It was the final straw when he made sweeping generalizations, claiming that Americans and English people view Muslims in a certain way and projecting negative stereotypes onto Afghan and Pakistani communities.
She Called Him Out
Faced with such ignorance, Sara felt compelled to call him out on his racist and insensitive remarks.
Deep Disappointment and Disgust
She expressed her deep disappointment and disgust at his refusal to educate himself, to seek truth, and distinguish fact from fiction.
The Relationship Was Shaky
The couple’s relationship was already on shaky ground due to unrelated issues, and this incident further amplified her doubts.
Sara couldn’t help but question whether she wanted to maintain a friendship with someone who demonstrated such blatant racism and a steadfast refusal to comprehend her perspective.
He Sounds Xenophobic
She took to Reddit to ask whether she was in the wrong for what happened, and several Redditors commented that she was not wrong.
One Reddit user wrote, “He’s not an amazing person. He sounds small-minded and xenophobic.”
He Is Not a Good Person
Another Redditor added, “He’s not amazing if he’s incredibly Islamophobic and generally racist. It would have been very reasonable to dump him and never want to talk to him again based just on that. You can’t make someone want to change and he clearly doesn’t want to as he’s shown you time and time again”
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