Moving to a new city can be a daunting experience, especially when it comes to relocating for work. This social worker from New Jersey is facing this dilemma after her husband landed a job in Las Vegas. Here’s the full story.
A Long Term Relationship
The Original Poster (OP), aged 39, and her husband, aged 38, have been married for 12 years, and they’ve been together for a total of 15 years.
They are a happy couple who love and support each other in their endeavors.
Recently, OP’s husband left his Manhattan-based job because it was too “work-from-home-oriented,” and the employer had not given him any assurances that he would be allowed to return to the office.
Her husband claimed that working remotely didn’t suit him. Although he didn’t say it out loud, he was simply upholding his moral standards. He has been trying to find a job since but hasn’t succeeded.
He’s Looking for a New Job
However, he informed OP that he needed to travel to Las Vegas for an interview, so last month, OP assisted him in finding low-cost flights and getting ready.
He went and reported that everything went smoothly, but he didn’t hear back from them.
However, things took a turn when suddenly, the husband said that he had been hired by the casino.
He Got a Job in Las Vegas
OP had anticipated that he would be hired for the New Brunswick job for which he had applied and required driving a Chevy Express van.
OP is not excited about the idea of moving to Las Vegas. She is worried about finding work in her field as a social worker, as she is currently licensed only in New Jersey. She is also concerned about cultural differences and the possibility of not fitting in with the locals.
OP has been a social worker for the past nine years, and she has worked with persons who have autism spectrum disorder for the previous 16 years. Before that, she was a server in a Mexican restaurant.
She’s Not Keen on Moving
While she is happy that her husband has found work, OP is worried about the implications of the move.
Her job requires in-person contact, and she could not work during the pandemic when many people suggested working from home. She loves her job, and being her own boss is hard but rewarding.
She wants to continue working in her field and not take up a job in a fast food joint or any other work.
Moving to Las Vegas would mean she would need to get licensed there, and that may take some time. Moreover, she worries about how culturally different Las Vegas is from New Jersey and how she and her husband may fit in with the locals.
Her Job Can’t Easily Transfer
OP has spoken to her husband about the realities of life in Las Vegas and how hard it will be for her to find work. She wants to have a “big talk” to discuss the implications of the move fully.
OP took to Reddit to ask whether she was in the wrong for not wanting to move to Las Vegas and support her husband.
Many Redditors sided with OP and said that she was not wrong.
One Reddit user asked why OP agreed to the potential interview, and OP should have mentioned that she didn’t like moving earlier.
Better Communication Could Prevent Future Problems
Another Redditor wrote, “Both your points are valid. You like your job and don’t want to leave. Your husband didn’t want to WFH and looked for another position. The thing is, you seem both a bit reckless. Your husband quit his job without having another one already. Then you help him interview in Vegas but don’t want to leave. You need a big discussion about what you both want and where you plan to be in 5 years or something like that.”
OP’s situation is one that many people face when relocating for work. While her husband has found work in Las Vegas, OP is rightly concerned about her job prospects and how she will fit in culturally.
What do you think? Would you support OP?
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