His Coworker Isn’t Talking To Him Because She Thought He Was Gay and Found Out He Wasn’t, She Says He Should Have Told Her

This Reddit user found himself questioning his actions after being accused of a breach of trust for not explicitly stating his heterosexuality to his co-workers.

A New Job, New Friends

The Original Poster (OP) is a 33-year-old who started a new job six weeks ago, and throughout that time, he made some close connections with other trainees.

OP particularly grew to like Meg, aged 33, and Yvette, aged 26.

OP says he always found it easy to make friends with women as they were incredibly engaging and inquisitive people.

He Didn’t Explicitly Share His Sexuality

Yvette is heterosexual, and Meg is a married lesbian. They both talked about their dating and relationship experiences, but OP did not share his relationships.

OP says he is not holding a big secret and that his relationships were just normal things that were not exciting for a conversation.

He occasionally mentions his previous relationships, but he always referred to them as “my ex”. He did not specify the gender of his ex-partners, as it seemed unnecessary to do so. Plus, OP says he never once mentioned his sexual orientation.

OP shared an instance where Yvette asked him to comment on people he thought were attractive at the workplace, but OP said he didn’t feel comfortable having that conversation in the workplace.

OP recently went on a date, and he had a great time.

They Realised He Wasn’t Gay

The situation took an unexpected turn when OP casually mentioned his successful date to Meg. Yvetter happened to be present; she wasn’t participating in the conversation because she was preoccupied with her phone.

The following day, Yvette distanced herself from OP, prompting Meg to express concern.

Meg came over to see if everything was okay and told OP to go talk to Yvette when she returned.

Yvette said she was feeling uneasy, seeing OP’s sexuality omission as a breach of trust. She believed that the personal information she shared may not have been disclosed had she known that OP was straight.

He’s Sexuality Omission Was a Breach of Trust

Yvette used words like “praying” and “feeling preyed upon,” indicating her discomfort with the situation.

OP quickly withdrew and explained to her, but she didn’t listen. Then OP sent HR an email to explain himself to avoid any work problems.

When discussing the matter with Meg, it became clear that she did not assume OP was gay but instead characterized his behavior as evasive.

OP says he is not worried about any office drama because Yvette hasn’t mentioned anything to anyone else, but he still feels bad.

He says Yvette is a good person, and he detests the notion that he was being predatory in her eyes.

He Doesn’t Like Being Seen as a Predator

He asked Reddit whether he was in the wrong in the situation, and several Redditors sided with OP, saying he was not wrong.

One Reddit user wrote, “You don’t have to disclose who you date, love, or [sleep with]. What difference does it make if you were gay for Yvette to confide in you? Unless there’s a bunch here, you’re not telling me you’re not the [jerk]. If you are crushing on Yvette, there might be a problem.”

Another Redditor commented, “Let’s say someone considers a gay person breaching their trust for not telling them they’re gay. Now if we swap it around, we have this scenario you described, and it’s just as horrible as it is if the roles were reversed. It’s a personal thing that you shouldn’t have to point out unless you feel you must. The accusations of you being predatory are also completely insane and have no evidence whatsoever.”

So what do you think? Was OP wrong for not telling about his sexuality?

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Source: Reddit