When the Original Poster’s boyfriend was snubbed from a wedding invitation due to his alleged alcohol issues, a storm of controversy brewed, resulting in a fallout and leading the baffled OP to turn to Reddit for clarity. What followed was a flurry of candid responses, shedding new light on the misunderstood notion of homophobia and the complexities of personal boundaries.
They Were Childhood Besties
The Original Poster (OP), aged 23, and his friend, aged 25, have been best friends since childhood.
Everyone’s Straight Significant Others Invited
OP’s best friend is getting married in two months, and she had invited all of their straight friends and their partners, but not OP’s boyfriend.
He Confronted Her
OP found this odd and he confronted her about her discrimination.
Was She a Closet Homophobe?
OP says he was confused because she never displayed any homophobia toward OP or his partner.
She Said He Was an Alcoholic
Things turned ugly when she came up with an excuse that OP’s boyfriend is an alcoholic who nobody wants to be around.
But He’s Never Violent
OP replied to her it is BS because he only drank a little and isn’t violent when he’s intoxicated.
Puking at the Party
She said to OP that the last time she invited him to the engagement party, he ended up puking on the bathroom floor.
OP replied that it was due to an upset stomach, not alcohol.
He Stinks of Booze
She claimed that it didn’t matter because he always leaves behind a strong alcohol scent wherever he goes, which bothers not just her, but others as well.
He Might Ruin the Wedding
She said that she doesn’t like to invite someone who would likely already be intoxicated before the ceremony even began and may disturb or ruin the wedding.
He Called Her Names
As a result, OP responded by telling her that he wouldn’t attend a homophobic Bridezilla’s wedding or her trashy reception. She was stunned into silence!
Nope, Think Again
OP thought his other friends would support him, but it turned out that everyone was siding with the Bridezilla and agreeing with her that OP’s boyfriend is annoying to be around.
He’s an Alcoholic and She’s No Homophobe
The friends went on to say how intoxicated he always is and how much he smelled of alcohol and that OP’s claims of homophobia were groundless because the friend in question actually invited a lesbian couple to the wedding.
You’re the Problem
OP took to Reddit to ask if he was wrong for calling her friend homophobic, and all the Redditors who commented said that OP was in the wrong.
Stop Playing the Victim
One Reddit user wrote, “YTA, stop victimizing yourself to protect your alcoholic boyfriend. Clearly, he has an issue if everyone notices him always smelling like alcohol and not wanting to be around him. If you care about him, try to get him to help instead of ignoring the real problem.”
Another Reddit user pointed out that not liking a gay person for their personality is not homophobia and that OP’s friend is not obligated to invite an AH to her wedding just to prove she is not homophobic.
A third Redditor commented, “Your BF is a drunk who no one likes or wants to be around them. It’s no wonder he wasn’t invited. She’s not being homophobic, she just doesn’t want someone who’s going to be blackout drunk and ruin her wedding, regardless of orientation.”
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