This woman and her husband are homeowners with a sizable fenced-in yard. Their 80-pound dog takes delight in frolicking and playing in the yard. So, why is it a problem?
A Close Family
Recently, the Original Poster’s (OP) father-in-law (K), and stepmother-in-law (F), relocated and now live only 10 minutes away from OP’s home.
Bringing the Dogs
K has taken up a new habit of bringing his two dogs, a Bernese mountain dog and a rescue dog, over to OP’s house without prior approval.
Whenever he needs to stop by for a brief visit, he will bring his dogs in through the back gate and release them into OP’s backyard before entering the house.
This occurs frequently when OP is not present to object, and her husband (S) hesitates to deny entry to the dogs once they are in the yard.
Dogs Behaving Badly
OP has observed that her in-laws’ two dogs are not properly trained, especially the 3-year-old Bernese mountain dog who is still intact and behaves recklessly.
The Berner frequently tries to mount OP’s female dog, who has already been spayed. As a result, the two dogs end up play-wrestling and getting themselves covered in dirt.
Can’t Use the Regular Dog Park
Currently, OP’s in-laws are unable to take their dogs to a dog park for exercise due to the Berner not being neutered, even though they are supposed to schedule the procedure.
Instead, they have taken to using OP’s yard as a substitute dog park without obtaining her permission.
It Keeps Happening
OP experienced a similar occurrence last Friday when she returned home after picking up her child from work to discover that K had brought their dogs over earlier.
Her Poor Dog
Upon entering the house, S informed her that their own dog was covered in dirt and saliva.
Seeing her dirty dog upset OP so upset that she nearly cried.
She Should Not Stress While Pregnant
This situation was especially distressing as OP is eight months pregnant and planned to have guests the following day.
She had already made arrangements to clean the house on Friday and Saturday morning without overtaxing herself or S.
An Evening Lost
However, the unexpected dog bath took up an hour and a half of their Friday evening.
A Polite Request
OP texted K and F, expressing her concern about their dogs visiting without prior notice.
In the message, she acknowledged the dogs’ need for space to run around since they couldn’t go to the dog park but emphasized that it was not convenient for them to show up unannounced.
OP also mentioned the dirty condition of their own dog after the last visit. However, her message went unanswered.
Instead, when her in-laws came to pick up their grandchild for their visit on Sunday, they reprimanded her husband for ten minutes.
They argued that they had done nothing wrong and expressed their disapproval of being told they couldn’t bring their dogs over without prior permission. These events occurred while OP was not present.
OP has typically enjoyed a positive relationship with her in-laws.
However, she finds it frustrating that they have ignored her text message while taking issue with her comments when speaking to her husband.
Offers an Apology
OP is uncertain if she should offer an apology for her tone in the text to help mend the relationship or if she should maintain her boundary and not permit them to use her yard as an informal dog park without prior approval.
OP wonders if she is being unreasonable for insisting that their yard is not a substitute for a dog park.
Is She Being Unreasonable?
One Reddit user suggested that OP needs to stand her ground and not allow her in-laws to continue using her yard without permission.
They advise OP not to apologize for setting boundaries and to let her in-laws know that she expects them to ask before bringing their dogs over.
Another Reddit user suggested that OP’s in-laws may feel defensive because they are used to free access to her yard.
They advised OP to approach the situation calmly and offer to work together to find a solution that works for everyone, such as scheduling specific times for the dogs to visit.
A third Reddit user noted that OP is not being unreasonable in setting boundaries for her property and that her in-laws should respect her wishes. They advised OP to stick to her guns and not allow her in-laws to take advantage of her kindness.
What do you think? What would you do in OP’s shoes? Do your in-laws overstep the mark? Leave us a comment!
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