A man took to Reddit recently in pursuit of advice. He wanted some solutions on how to address his girlfriend’s behavior, which has recently started causing friction in the relationship.
Long-Term Relationship
The protagonist of this story, the OP (original poster), is a 28-year-old man who has been in a relationship with his 23-year-old girlfriend for five years. Together, they have a 3-year-old daughter.
Digital Investments
OP explains that he and his girlfriend recently got into buying and selling non-fungible tokens (NFTs), unique digital assets you can buy and sell using cryptocurrency.
Lost Interest
At first, OP enjoyed having a mutual interest with his girlfriend, but he eventually lost interest in NFTs and decided to focus on trading stocks instead.
Meanwhile, his girlfriend expressed a desire to become a social media influencer for the NFT community.
Some Red Flags
While OP supported her aspirations, he noticed some red flags when his girlfriend started removing all photos of them and their daughter from her Instagram and Twitter accounts and changed her bio to focus solely on NFTs.
Expressed Concern
OP brought up his concerns with his girlfriend, who explained that she had seen something on TikTok about how social media users can target and tease kids when their parents post photos of them on social media.
He reluctantly accepted this explanation and decided to go along with it.
Out of Contact
However, things took a turn for the worse when he finished work late one night and realized that his girlfriend had not texted him all day.
He checked her location and saw that she was out at a club.
Her Priorities Changed
When he called her, she explained that she was hanging out with her NFT community friends who had flown in for a few days.
Angry Reaction
OP was angry and upset, as he’s always only had one rule in the relationship – “I don’t care what you do, just tell me so I know what you’re doing and who you’re with, so I know that you’ll be safe.”
She had ample time to tell him but had still failed to do so.
Talk It Out
Eventually, OP picked up his girlfriend so they could talk things through. Things got a bit heated, but they eventually talked it out.
Late Night Errand
But then she explained that she had to drop off an ID for one of her friends who was staying at a hotel.
Calling an Uber
She opted to take an Uber because she was upset that OP had yelled at her and didn’t want to argue anymore.
Out All Night
OP was worried about her safety because it was 3 am, so he asked her to keep him updated, but she was so exhausted she “fell asleep” and didn’t arrive home until 8 am the next morning.
Frequent Trips
Another incident that caused tension in the relationship was when OP’s girlfriend texted him an itinerary for a trip to New York while he was at the gym.
She flew out on Tuesday morning without consulting OP beforehand.
Confrontation
When he confronted her about this, she said that he didn’t seem interested in going when she initially asked him.
OP felt hurt that she didn’t bother to reconfirm with him about the trip and only asked him once if he wanted to go.
He’s Feeling Hurt
These incidents have caused OP to feel hurt and depressed.
He explains that he doesn’t have the energy to be mad at his girlfriend anymore, but he is clearly struggling with the trust issues that have arisen from her actions.
His girlfriend’s seeming to prioritize her NFT community over their relationship and family only adds to his worries.
Tough Call
It is clear that OP is grappling with a tough situation.
Struggling With Her Behaviour
He seems to genuinely care for his girlfriend and their daughter, but he is struggling to reconcile his girlfriend’s behavior with his own expectations for their relationship.
He wants to be supportive of her career aspirations, but he also wants her to prioritize their family’s well-being and safety.
Prioritize the Family
This situation highlights the complexities of modern relationships, particularly when it comes to social media and online communities.
His girlfriend seems to be fully immersed in her NFT community, to the point where she is willing to prioritize her friendships over her relationship with him.
Communication Is Key
While it is understandable that she wants to pursue her passions and interests, she must communicate with OP and consider his feelings and concerns.
It’s unclear how he and his girlfriend will navigate the challenges that lie ahead, but Redditors offered their advice on the situation to try and help him.
Being Played
One user told OP straight, “She removed all their pictures so she would appear as a 23-year-old single person in front of all her newfound friends (who are all most likely young, single, and with no kids).
Wake Up!
Are you really buying the I fell asleep story at the hotel (where did she fall asleep in the lobby). Then the solo trip to NYC that you almost knew about, really.
Sounds like someone is getting played here. She is trying to live the jetsetter lifestyle but that is hard to sale when you have a live-in boyfriend and a daughter.”
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