In a recent Reddit post, a woman sought advice on whether she was being unreasonable for refusing to host an underage boy from a distant relative’s family with less than 24 hours notice.
Last Minute Request
In a recent Reddit post, a person sought advice on whether they were being unreasonable for refusing to host an underage boy from a distant relative’s family with less than 24 hours notice. Here’s the full story.
While the Original Poster (OP) was at work, his mother called, which only happens in dire cases.
She requested whether her cousin’s son can stay with OP from Friday through Tuesday. OP shares that the timing was less than ideal, as the request came with less than 24 hours notice.
Plus, he’s underage and appears to be looking into colleges in OP’s country. The boy lives in Eastern Europe, while OP resides in the UK.
OP was mad as he had plans for the weekend. Additionally, he had a friend staying over and a roommate who happened to be openly gay, which could potentially create a tense atmosphere due to the conservative, homophobic nature of his family.
So he explained that he had a friend staying with him over the weekend and that he is unable to host.
Then she asked if OP could ask his friends to let him stay with them as he is too young to rent a hotel and if he could find the time to look after him.
Rude and Unhelpful
OP claimed that he had never met him, his father, or anybody else from his family before and that he didn’t even know his name.
When OP suggested alternatives such as Airbnb or youth hotels, the mother dismissed the idea and accused him of being rude and unhelpful and that she did not raise him to be so harsh.
She immediately cut the phone and appeared to be quite disappointed with him.
Not to Blame
OP felt bad about what happened and he took to Reddit to ask whether he was in the wrong for not hosting.
Several Redditors sided with OP saying that he was not wrong.
One Reddit user wrote, “She’s being ridiculous and it’s rude to volunteer someone else’s time and home without even asking first.”
Another Redditor pointed out that this doesn’t sound like an emergency, and it sounds like the boy’s poor planning.
A third Reddit user commented, “You shouldn’t be expected to accommodate this for several reasons, but especially because you are already hosting and it would be incredibly inappropriate for you to ask your guest to share the space with a stranger.
Honestly, that suggestion is bizarre to me. Shrug – your family/cousin’s child did inadequate planning.”
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