A father recently took to a subthread on Reddit to ask the community whether he was an AH for telling his girlfriend she’s not allowed to tell his daughter what she can and can’t wear.
The original poster (OP) explains that he was leaving town for a camping trip. He left his 16-year-old daughter and long-time girlfriend at home together for the weekend while he was away.
OP said he has been with his girlfriend for over three years, and they decided to move in together six months ago.
Usually, everything is fine between the three, but drama ensued after he left for the weekend.
OP had given his daughter approval to go to a party on Saturday. However, the girlfriend had something to say when the daughter was ready to leave and join her friends at the party.
OP explained that when his girlfriend saw what the daughter looked like, she immediately made her change out of her “provocative” clothing and wash off her makeup.
The outfit caused a huge fight when OP discussed what had happened when he returned from his camping trip. They’ve hardly spoken since.
As a widower and single father, the OP may feel he is responsible for raising his daughter and ensuring that she is well taken care of.
This may lead him to be protective of his daughter and to want to maintain control over her upbringing and well-being.
Understandably, the OP might feel frustrated or upset when his girlfriend tries to step in and tell his daughter what to do.
On the other hand, it’s also important to consider the girlfriend’s perspective.
As someone in a relationship with the OP and likely spends a significant amount of time with his daughter, she may feel that she has a stake in the daughter’s upbringing and well-being.
She may see herself as trying to help and support the daughter and may not understand why the OP is preventing her from doing so!
The daughter’s clothing and makeup issue raises additional questions about the role of OP’s girlfriend. Plus, there’s also the daughter, who, at 16 years old, is at a critical stage in her life where she is starting to form her own identity and figure out who she is.
It also seems important to fellow Reddit users to respect the daughter’s autonomy and allow her to make her own decisions and mistakes.
This can be difficult. However, it’s also important to recognize that the daughter is growing up and starting to take control of her own life and that she needs to be allowed to do so.
The question of whether the OP is right or wrong for telling his girlfriend she’s not allowed to tell his daughter what to do is complex and can’t be answered easily.
Many factors are at play, including the perspectives of all parties involved, the daughter’s age, and the nature of the relationship between the OP, his girlfriend, and his daughter.
Ultimately, Reddit users seemed to side with the father-daughter duo. It is not the responsibility of the girlfriend to tell someone else what they can and cannot do with their body in any situation.
OP made it clear from day one that he’s looking for a girlfriend and NOT a step-mom, but is it that simple?
What would you do in this situation? Does the type of clothing and makeup make a difference?
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