This mother took to Reddit to describe her emotional pain. She’s heartbroken because her daughter’s best friend’s parents have banned her from seeing their daughter.
Sara’s 9-year-old daughter is extremely shy and doesn’t have many friends.
But she does have a best friend (B), with whom she’s been close for the past three years. They do everything together, from playdates to weekend getaways at the chalet up north with B’s parents.
Sara has always got along well with B’s mother.
No Big Deal
Sara has always talked to her children about the future, including the possibility of having a boyfriend or girlfriend, in a casual way.
Tough to Recognize Now
Sara has noticed that her daughter has shown an interest in girls in the past, but she hasn’t made a big deal out of it.
She understands that it can be hard to distinguish between a close friendship and romantic love at her age, and she’s happy to let her figure it out on her own.
Recently, her daughter told B that she loved her in a “girlfriend” way, but B responded that she loved her like a friend.
That was the end of it, and there was no harassment or further pursuit.
Things Took a Wrong Turn
However, the next day, B’s mother called Sara and said that she didn’t want the girls to play together anymore because they were clearly not raising their children the same way!
She told Sara that she didn’t want her daughter to be a “bad influence” on B.
Raised to Be Open-Minded
Sara has always raised her kids to accept everyone, no matter their differences, choices, genders, preferences, and colors, and has instilled in them an open-mindedness that she learned from her own mother.
Sara is outraged that in 2023, there is still so much taboo surrounding love and preferences.
Not Everyone Is So Accepting
She’s trying to explain to her daughter that not everyone has the same open mind as they do, and although they can appreciate and love anyone as long as they are kind people, it’s not the same everywhere.
She’s teaching her daughter to be patient and accept that some kids may not be able to discuss those things because they may not have encountered or had that conversation with their parents yet.
Sara’s best friend is gay, so it’s normal for her, but not everyone has that same understanding.
People Can Judge
Sara had a conversation with her daughter about racism not long ago.
She explained that some people would judge a person without even knowing them due to their color or categorize them all in the same basket just because of their color.
Her daughter didn’t understand how people could judge or dislike someone without knowing them.
Today was an example of how, unfortunately, it’s the same about love preferences and gender.
Is It Homophobia?
Sara is open-minded and has tried turning the situation over and over in her head, but she still sees it as homophobia.
She knows that her daughter saying “I love you” in a certain way doesn’t define her whole personality, and it’s difficult knowing that they’ve been best friends for so long.
She thinks B’s mother’s reaction is ridiculous, and she can’t believe that this is happening in a country and city where people are supposed to be open-minded.
Breaking the News
She had to break the news to her daughter, and it was so heartbreaking.
Her eyes filled with tears, her jaw was shaking, and her heart was beating so fast.
She tried to explain to her that not everyone has the same understanding as they do and that they should still accept and appreciate every one. She’s teaching her daughter to be strong and true to herself, even if others don’t understand her.
A Fierce Mother
Sara is a fierce mother who loves her daughter unconditionally and wants her to be happy and confident in who she is.
She’s teaching her to stand up for what she believes in and to be kind to everyone, even if they don’t understand her.
B’s mother may not see it now, but B is missing out on an incredible friendship, and she’s depriving her of a true friendship.
Love Is Love
She’s heartbroken that this one comment has threatened the girl’s friendship. She believes love is love, and it shouldn’t matter what gender it’s between.
She hopes that one day, everyone will be able to accept and love each other for who they are, regardless of their differences.
For now, she will continue to raise her children to be open-minded and accepting of everyone, and she hopes that someday, the other mother will be able to do the same.
The Internet’s Response
Reddit users were sad for Sara’s daughter.
One user said, “When I was a kid, I thought I would marry my cousin. He was my best friend and I loved him. Of course, I figured out that’s not how it works (well… most of the time), but point is that kids are so innocent. They just love with their whole hearts, they don’t think about it much more deeply than love itself. I’m sorry you dealt with this and that your daughter will be hurt.”
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