A Reddit user voiced her concerns after her daughter asked to move back in with her (following a messy divorce) and she told her no.
Her Daughter and Kids
The Original Poster (OP) is a 45-year-old mother whose daughter, Mallory, got married 3 years ago.
Mallory, who is 24 years old, has two children aged 2 and 6 months.
A Broken Marriage
Recently, Mallory’s husband revealed that he has been cheating on her and is leaving her for another woman.
Mallory and her husband rent a house, but due to Mallory’s lack of credit at the time of moving in, only her husband’s name is on the lease.
He is giving Mallory 30 days to move out.
Mallory is understandably distraught due to her recent separation from her husband.
OP has been doing all she can to comfort Mallory during this difficult time.
She Wants to Come Home
Mallory has asked if she could move in with OP, explaining that she would have her children every other week.
She assured OP that she is not looking for childcare as both of her kids are in daycare.
Mallory has offered to pay rent and chip in on groceries if she moves in with OP.
OP has always raised their children to be independent, encouraging them to start doing things on their own as they grew older.
Mallory moved out at 19 years old to move in with her soon-to-be ex-husband.
OP’s sons are currently freshmen at the same university and plan to move out after graduating from college.
An Alternative Offer
OP asked Mallory how her credit score was, and Mallory responded that she could reasonably rent a new place.
OP then offered to pay the first month’s rent, last month’s rent, and a deposit, along with six months’ rent in advance.
She Is Pushing the Subject
However, Mallory declined the offer, stating that it was not about the money.
While she’s not wealthy by any means, she does well for herself, and her soon-to-be ex-husband has already agreed to give her money weekly, even before they go to court.
What Mallory really wants is emotional support during this tough time.
OP told Mallory that they could provide emotional support even if she was living in her own place.
Still Needs Mom
However, Mallory started to cry and explained that she just needs her mom right now.
In response, OP reassured her daughter and told her that everything was going to be okay.
An Angry Reaction
OP’s sons are angry with her over her decision regarding Mallory’s situation.
Plenty of Room
They pointed out that OP has plenty of room for Mallory to stay, and that Mallory has offered to pay rent.
They also noted that Mallory is responsible and that her toddler is well-behaved.
However, OP still feels that they cannot accommodate Mallory’s request to move in with them.
Despite this reasoning, OP’s sons have accused her of being heartless.
A Bad Mother
Reddit users are calling OP insensitive for not offering emotional support and not allowing her daughter to move in.
One commenter said “This is quite sad. Usually you read on here about financial hardships, but today I read something far more upsetting. Your daughter doesn’t need tough love right now- she’s not a teenager that is going through a breakup or a child who needs to learn that the world is tough- she needs her mom.”
Another user wrote “This is an excellent example of showing a person the love they need, not the kind you want to give them. OP and her daughter likely have different love languages — OP is trying to show love through financial support (and maybe interpreting that as her daughter’s big loss and stressor). That’s not wrong, per say, lots of people find finances to be incredibly stressful during periods such as this. But her daughter is TELLING OP that isn’t what she needs. She needs the emotional support and presence of her family.”
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