Recently, on a Reddit subthread, a big discussion was triggered by a Redditor who sought advice from the community on whether she was wrong for refusing to pay for a free bar at her daughter’s wedding.
A Great Relationship
The Redditor said that both she and her husband had a great relationship with the daughter.
An Argument Over Money
However, when her daughter demanded they pay for the drinks’ costs at her wedding it caused a major argument.
Already Paying For Most of the Wedding
The woman said that she had agreed to cover most of the wedding expenses, including catering, flowers, and cake.
Gift From Grandparents
They said they wouldn’t pay for a wedding dress, veil, and headpiece; these were a gift bought for the daughter by the grandparents.
A Free Bar
When it came to the drinks, the daughter and her fiancé wanted a free bar paid for by her parents.
The daughter was upset with the mom for not agreeing to cover the cost of every drink for their guests, but she was insistent they wouldn’t do it.
Suggesting a Compromise
To get around the issue, the woman proposed setting a budget of $10 per drink and asked that the guests or the couple would have to cover the remaining cost.
Setting a Budget
She said that expensive drinks were between $7-$8, so $10 seemed about right.
She thought, “I didn’t think it was unreasonable for me to set the boundaries for my budget, so I wasn’t upset about it.”
Not Well Received
The woman called her daughter to tell her what she was doing, but it only seemed to make things worse.
Blaming the Parents
Her daughter was still angry; a limit per drink wasn’t enough, and she and her fiancé said her parents were in the wrong.
Accused of Controlling
The woman described the fiancé as usually someone who is laid back, had called her out and accused the parents of “trying to control them and dictate what they do for their wedding.”
Is She Being Stingy?
The mother recognized that her decision to set a $10 limit per drink may have made her seem stingy.
However, she added that this didn’t mean she was setting a limit on her overall contribution.
Seeking Redditors’ Perspective
She finished the story by asking Reddit if she was in the wrong.
She said, “I don’t think I am, but I’ll take my verdict fair and square.”
Entitled and Spoilt
Moony-21 gave the most upvoted response saying that she was not in the wrong. They said, “Your daughter sounds entitled and spoiled.”
They went onto say, “Does she even realize how lucky she is to have someone pay for her wedding? My fiancé and I have no financial support so forgive me that it makes me sick to see someone so unappreciative of everything you are doing.”
RedRixen83 echoed what others had contributed by saying, “Holy cow is your kid entitled. A limit is good just in general – no one needs to be getting tanked at a wedding. But you’re literally paying for everything, and haven’t butted in to any other plans.”
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