A Redditor canceled her daughter’s surprise marriage proposal after the boyfriend warned her to make sure her son didn’t act “too gay” at the event. After canceling the event in response to the wild comments being made by the soon-to-be fiance, she now fears the worst, worrying that she might have ruined her relationship with her daughter.
A Steady Relationship
Jackie’s daughter, Jaelinn, has been in a relationship with her boyfriend, James, for two years.
Never Met James’ Family
James has been living with Jackie’s family for the past year, but despite living just a few miles away, their families have never met in person.
She Has Mixed Feelings About Soon-To-Be Son-In-Law
Jackie has mixed feelings about James – she doesn’t dislike him, but she’s not a fan either.
James can be short-tempered with Jaelinn, orders her around too much, and often speaks to her in a condescending tone.
Additionally, James’ attitudes toward just about everything are radically right-wing.
James Shows Signs of Homophobia
The biggest issue that Jackie has with James is his attitude toward her son, Devon, who is bisexual.
James has never said anything overtly hateful, but his phobias are obvious.
His Body Language Says It All
He rolls his eyes or snickers under his breath when he thinks no one’s looking, and he has made it clear that while he’s not against the LGBTQ+ lifestyle, he doesn’t believe in it.
Jaelinn, on the other hand, is highly suggestible and defers to James more often than she should.
A Planned Proposal
James recently told Jackie that he was planning to propose to Jaelinn on Valentine’s Day and wanted to invite his family to the event.
Perfect Moment for Everyone
Jackie thought it would be wonderful for everyone to be in attendance, so she agreed.
James Becomes Demanding
However, over the past few weeks, James has been making one demand after another.
He has been critical of the snacks Jackie plans to serve, doesn’t want his parents to see certain TV shows.
The Final Straw
He even asked Jackie to ensure that Devon doesn’t “act too gay” in front of his parents.
Jackie finally had enough when James made that last demand and revoked the invitation.
Nobody Is Happy – Not Even Her Gay Son
The whole house was thrown into an uproar, and Jaelinn was furious with Jackie.
She said that James had changed his mind about proposing to her and that it was all Jackie’s fault.
Should Have Put Up and Shut Up
At first, her son supported Jackie, but now even he says that she should have kept her mouth shut and put up with it a little bit longer.
Mother and Daughter Not on Speaking Terms
Jackie’s daughter has still not talked to her since then and she has seen the couple moving boxes out of the home, which leads her to believe her daughter is moving out with the boyfriend.
A Complicated Situation
Overall, the situation is complicated.
On the one hand, Jackie had every right to revoke the invitation if she felt uncomfortable with James’ demands.
On the other hand, Jaelinn is understandably upset that her surprise proposal was ruined.
An Uncertain Future for the Family
It remains to be seen whether James and Jaelinn will continue their relationship, and if so, how Jackie’s relationship with James will evolve.
The Comments Flood In
Many Reddit commenters agreed with Jackie’s choice, stating that the boyfriend was displaying many red flags and that she should have a long talk with her daughter about having this man in her life.
Some other commenters on the thread disagreed with Jackie’s choice, stating that this may have caused a huge divide in her daughter’s life and that she was forcing her to choose between her family and her soon-to-be fiance.
This Is the Honeymoon Period
Many Reddit users wanted to help Jackie and give her ideas on how she could handle the situation moving forward.
One stated “I would have a long, honest conversation with your daughter and then tell her he’s no longer welcome to live in your house. I’d give him a deadline to move out, but I’d also tell her that this is the BEST this man will ever be. This is their honeymoon period. So if she thinks anything is going to get better with him, she’s wrong, and she should seriously think about whether she wants to stay with this man.”
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