A Reddit post went wild after a woman relayed how angry her daughter was at her for being persistent with her clothing advice.
Tomboy Refuses to Take Mother’s Clothing Advice
Patricia, a 40-year-old with two kids, a son and a daughter, turned to Reddit after her tomboy daughter refused to dress the way she wanted for a formal family event.
Daughter Rejects Feminine Fashion
Her 15-year-old daughter has openly dressed as a tomboy for the past two years.
She profoundly resents feminine fashion and would rather wear sweatshirts and pants.
Support for Her Daughter Despite Cultural Pressures
Coming from a mixed cultural background, Patricia has always tried to be supportive, although it wasn’t always easy.
She let her daughter shop for her own clothing, and as long as they weren’t inappropriate or graphic, she was okay with them.
An Upcoming Event Spurs on the Problem
An upcoming family wedding ignited the problem.
Since it would be a big Indian wedding, Patricia desperately wanted her daughter to comply with the traditional style of clothing.
Traditional Indian Dress Required
The other girls attending the wedding would be wearing traditional Lehengas Indian dresses.
The wedding was Patricia’s niece’s wedding, and she felt that her daughter shouldn’t feel left out and should make an effort to dress nice.
A Polite Request
Her niece wasn’t just a random relative but someone her daughter also looked up to and was worth the effort.
She asked her daughter once if she would also wear the Indian dress, but she declined.
After that, she left the topic alone for some time.
What Will You Wear?
Eventually, Patricia asked the daughter what clothing she would like to wear for the occasion.
Not surprisingly, she opted for a casual t-shirt and slacks.
Mother Suggests Alternative Options
Patricia persisted with her previous suggestion of traditional Indian clothing. However, she wasn’t hellbent on it.
She suggested her daughter could select a formal outfit, a suit, or a dress, but tees were not appropriate for such an important event.
A Formal Event
After all, it was a black-tie event, and everyone would be looking their best.
Mom Picking Outfits
Moreover, her son was going to wear a formal suit. She arranged to get him a newly tailored suit specifically for the outing.
Similarly, she invited her daughter to pick a fabric and suit style.
Trying Not to Put the Pressure On
She was cautious about not being coercive and asked that her choice not be scandalous.
At her own discretion, she could opt for a typical men’s suit or switch it up a bit to be more feminine like Zendaya’s.
No Placating Allowed
Even though she claimed not to be forceful, Patricia managed to trigger her daughter.
She strongly believes she isn’t restricting her daughter’s expressiveness. After all, she will likely need to wear formal clothing at some point in her life.
A Lesson in Life
She believes dressing appropriately for the right occasion is vital. And for the time being, that’s something her daughter should earnestly learn.
While the wedding was postponed, she still expected her to wear formal clothes.
Daughter’s Anger Continued
Unfortunately, her teenage daughter wouldn’t acknowledge her plea and remained angry with her.
Drawing the Line
The woman narrates how sweet, intelligent, and respectful her daughter is.
But she would only draw the line when the issue of her fashion style becomes problematic.
Mother Suspects Daughter Is Trans
And as to whether or not she is trans, the mother isn’t against it, and she’s all for her taking pride in her body.
She thinks she’s at a stage where she already knows more than her. However, she wants her to channel her rebellious attitude correctly, not into justifying her all-the-time “streetwear” fashion choices.
Who Is Right?
As usual, Redditors wheeled their comments in and seemed to side with the mother.
SonicPetrichor said, “You even gave her the choice of what type of formal wear to wear. It’s extremely disrespectful to show up to a wedding in a tshirt.”
AngIsGold also commented: “Yeah, typical teenager phase. As a teen, I always got the most mad when I knew that my parents were right, but I didn’t want to show it. It’s typical for them to act out because they’re coming into their own identity and don’t want to be told that they can’t do something. But this was an extremely progressive approach, Patricia, you handled it perfectly! She’ll realize in time just how right you are.”
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