A Reddit user asked the community if they thought he was in the wrong for calling out his brother’s girlfriend and her controlling behavior.
Brothers Enjoy Gaming
Michael and his brother Rob, both males aged 31 and 28 respectively, often engage in playing various games together.
Rob Moves in With His Girlfriend
However, a few months ago, Rob decided to move in with his girlfriend.
Michael Welcomes Rob’s Girlfriend
Initially, Michael thought highly of the girlfriend and everything seemed to be going well.
However, during one gaming session when they were matched with two women players who had microphones, the girlfriend expressed her displeasure with the situation.
She made it clear that she did not want her boyfriend to engage in any games with female players.
No Girls Allowed
In an effort to honor his brother’s girlfriend’s wishes, Rob chose to exit the game they were playing when he and his girlfriend encountered two women players with microphones.
Stick to the Rules
Following that experience, whenever they played games that required the use of microphones and had random team members, they only continued playing if all their teammates were men.
Female Avatars Cause Tension
However, a more significant issue arose during a different game, where they joined a party for a dungeon run and encountered three players using female avatars.
Girlfriend Feels Threatened
The girlfriend expressed her dissatisfaction with this situation as well, as it was unclear if the players were male or female, causing discomfort for her.
Michael Gets Frustrated
Michael found it challenging to navigate his brother’s girlfriend’s boundaries when playing games together.
They spent a significant amount of time trying to find other players who wouldn’t violate her boundaries, which often required asking players about their gender before agreeing to play with them.
This process made Michael feel uncomfortable, as he felt it was intrusive and awkward.
Additionally, the effort to find a party that met the girlfriend’s approval cut into Michael’s already limited time, making it challenging to enjoy the gaming experience.
They Spend Less Time Together
Michael’s gaming sessions with his brother decreased significantly from two to three times a week in the afternoon to only once a week, with no consistent schedule.
Respecting His Brother’s Relationship
Despite feeling disappointed, Michael chose to respect his brother’s relationship and did not say anything about the situation.
Changing the Gaming Schedule
Instead, he adjusted his gaming schedule to play later at night after putting his kids to bed.
A Birthday Party
Michael attended a friend’s birthday celebration recently, where he ran into his brother and his brother’s girlfriend.
Rob Invites Michael to a Gaming Session
During their conversation, Rob asked if Michael wanted to play games together later in the week, to which he replied that he would think about it.
Concerned About the Situation
Michael also expressed his concerns about their gaming sessions, explaining that his limited free time made it difficult to spend it searching for players who only played male characters because his brother’s girlfriend was uncomfortable with female characters.
Michael further added that he was tired of sounding like a creep by asking players about their gender before playing with them.
Rob Contacts Michael After a Fight
After the birthday party, Michael received a text from his brother late at night, saying that he and his girlfriend had been fighting.
Rob expressed his understanding of why Michael had voiced his concerns, as he too had felt frustrated with their situation.
Keep Your Head Down
Rob also believed that Michael should keep his thoughts to himself, as he usually did, instead of speaking up and confronting his girlfriend.
Is Honesty the Best Policy?
Michael began to wonder if he was in the wrong for being straightforward instead of sugarcoating the issue or telling a lie to avoid conflict.
Reddit users are unanimous in their opinion that the brother’s girlfriend is being unreasonable and controlling.
They point out that her insecurities and jealousy are not boundaries, and that Rob is in an abusive relationship.
They express concern for the brother’s well-being and advise Michael to maintain their boundaries.
Many of them suggest that the girlfriend’s behavior is a red flag, and that the brother needs to stand up for himself and address the issue with her.
One user stated “Your brother’s girlfriend is being ridiculous. She’s jealous of him hearing other women’s voices? She’s jealous of him looking at female video game characters? She doesn’t want him interacting with any other women, real or imaginary? Dude I think you were WAY nicer about this than you needed to be. You are not responsible for her insecurities or their weird ass relationship.”
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