It’s no secret that relationships can be tricky, but some things are straight-up dealbreakers. Sure, there are plenty of fish in the sea, but you don’t want to be the one throwing back a perfectly good catch because of some pesky, avoidable issues. The question came up in a recent Reddit thread when u/thenamestilly asked, “Boys be honest, what makes a girl instantly unattractive?” The question saw over 24,000 responses, these were the top voted responses.
#1. Entitlement – 26.8K Votes
Neowynd101262 gave the most up voted contributed, they said, “Entitlement.” AhFourFeckSakeLads agreed and said that when entitlement is seen in a woman, you should, “Run like hell.” Goodgodzilla added, “This is so true as entitlement reaches into so many areas of a relationship from considering divergent viewpoints, to sex, to finances, to empathetic action, to working as a partner et. al. You just summed a lot in one word.”
#2. Being Rude or Disrespectful – 24.7K Votes
Koevsocks response was the second most popular, they said, “Being rude or disrespectful without a reason.” NegativeGee agreed saying, “And then when I call her out on it I get the “you have to stop being so sensitive”. How about you just try being nice, it’s not that hard.”
#3. Lying – 20.1K Votes
Anomaly1134 gave the third most up voted response. They said, “Lying. Being Flakey. Talking negatively about everything and everyone. Treating a server poorly.” Neo_sporin replied with a story, “In highschool a girl said ‘we are going over to Kenny’s to watch a movie, I’ll pick you up at 8’ I was NOT ready for the doorbell to ring at 8 AM. Married her and she haaaates this story.” Dodexahedron added their humorous reply, “I, too, am disappointed if a woman doesn’t install patches in a timely fashion and keep things properly secured and maintained.”
#4. Not Owning Mistakes – 19.0K Votes
Laussen-gram contribution was, “When she blames everyone for her own mistakes.” Mickey_thebish replied, “For me this goes with any gender. and friends to. Like no bye.”
#5. Being Too Demanding – 18.5K Votes
BringbackIpaths responded, “My roommate invited a girl over and she just barks “MAKE ME A DRINK” at him.” You Might Also Like: She’s Definitely Flirting With You If She Does These Things MoJoRisin125 replied, “I see your roommate is one of the masochistic types that just loves it when a woman s***s all over him. It absolutely *baffles* me how many people there are like this out there. Men and women both.”
#6. Thread Summary, “Don’t be an ***hole” – 18.0K Votes
Revangelion thought that, “A summary of this thread is ‘don’t be an ***hole’ and ‘don’t smell bad’. Skleppykins added, “Also, all of the qualities apply to people in general, not specifically women. I’d be turned off by a smelly, self-entitled ***hole co-worker as much as I would a smelly, self-entitled ***hole partner.”
#7. Talking About Ex – 16.6K Votes
JasonPassley offered, “Constantly talking about an ex, even in a derogatory manner. Let it go.” CaterpillarNo2943 agreed saying, “I have a friend that has been divorced for 20+ years and she still can’t stop talking about her ‘was-band’. Unreal. Majorly annoying.”
#8. Littering – 12.5K Votes
Amitybeast’s turnoff was, “If she litters. Had a girl throw a bag of trash out of my passenger window while taking her home. She called me a ‘tree hugger’ when I called her out on it.”
In reply, ExWiFi69 had a similar story, “I was driving with my cousin once and they threw a whole pizza box out the window while I was driving.
I turned the car around and made them pick it up. The look of betrayal on their face since they had friends in the car. Shame is powerful.”
#9. Bad Hygiene” – 11.8K Votes
BodegaDad response was, “Bad hygiene.” To which HardcoreShadow replied, “This. You may be very surprised just how many people forget to give their bums a good clean.”
#10. Self Love” – 11.1K Votes
ClepTheTenderhearted thought that their turnoff was, “Using “self love” as an excuse to be narcissistic and s****y.”
#11. Being Shallow and Superficial – 9.4K Votes
Redditor, Starkiller_303 offered, “Expressing how shallow you are. Someone I was attracted to said something like ‘my future husband will have a lakehouse and a boat.'” They continued, “One of her friends responded with ‘…or maybe you can find the right person and then pursue that dream together!’ And she was just like ‘nah.'”
#12. Screams at Everything – 8.6K Votes
One Redditor thought that when the woman disgrees with you, she does it by screaming. “No thanks” they said. In reply, Clear-Ideal4231 said, “My mom screams often so screamers are a big no for me.”
#13. “If you can’t handle me at my worst you don’t deserve me at my best.” – 8.3K Votes
Life_is_a_meme_204 gave a popular response, they suggested, “If you can’t handle me at my worst you don’t deserve me at my best.” Another Redditor throught they, “…even I f***ing handle me at my worst.”
#14. Cruel to People and Animals – 7.5K Votes
Another popular response, one that saw several thousand up votes, was to say that if she treats animals badly it was a red flag. The Redditor added that treating animals went together with treating service or retail staff badly. This saw another reply confirming that you could judge a person by how they treat those who can do nothing for them.
#15. Manipulative – 6.4K Votes
Cml33 suggested that manipulative behavior or playing games was a red flag for them. Later, they edited their contribution saying, “Dunno why this needs said, but not all women do this. If you think they do, either you have some personal issues with women you should work through or you’re spending time with the wrong people.” You Might Also Like: Flirting Signs You Can’t Ignore: How to Tell if She’s Interested
#16. Attention Seeker – 4.7K Votes
Another Redditor said that a red flag for them was if a woman makes negative comments about themselves so to get people to say postitive things about them. They thought that it was just a way of getting attention.
#17. Conversational Narcissist – 4.1K Votes
User, Redletterday94 clarified that their contribution could apply to both sexes. They said that when the person focuses primarily on themselves during a conversation. They added, “Was talking to a girl a few months ago, and it eventually just kinda hit me just how much she talked about herself or would steer conversations towards herself and her problems.”
#18. Addicted to Social Media – 3.9K Votes
PeepShowIsGreatMayn felt that a red flag for them was the person, “Being a heavy social media poster/‘influencer’ – not interested frankly in becoming an unpaid photographer nor am i interested in what you had for breakfast.” Another Redditor agreed, thefourthhouse said, “I don’t even want to associate with those types of people in any way. Entirely fake to the core.”
#19. Toxic Personality – 3.8K Votes
User ShadowLancer128, simply said, “Toxic personality.” The sentimented resonated with many other Redditors but obviously, it should be remembered that both men and woman can have difficult and toxic personalities.
#20. No Hobbies or Interests – 3.6K Votes
Redditor, R_z_n said that having no hobbies or interests was something that puts them off from continuing in a relationship. Laitnetsixecrisis agreed. They said, “I’m a woman, and realised last night I have no hobbies any more. I used to love reading and cooking, but now they seem like such a chore.” They continued, “I’ve made it my goal for this year to reconnect with my hobbies and try and find something new to do. Damn shift work makes it hard, but I am determined to find something I enjoy.” You Might Also Like: Stop! 15 Simple Things You’ve Probably Been Doing the Hard Way
#21. Habitual Flirt – 3.2K Votes
One contributor said that for them, “Flirting with every guy” was a red flag. They thought that if the woman was trying to make him jealous would just make him walk away.
#22. “She knew nothing about the outside world.” – 3.1K Votes
Peterbparker86 said that, “Not sure how to phrase this but I dated a girl years ago, she was gorgeous but that was the extent of her talents. She knew nothing about the outside world. It was so difficult to talk about stuff with her.” They continued, “That’s an instant turn off for me… Oh and smoking.”
#23. Enhanced Looks – 2.6K Votes
KenzoAtreides thought that artificial looks such as lip fillers that made the lips look swollen like, “They just ate something allergic” put them off continuing in a relationship.
#24. “How much money do you earn?” – 1.4K Votes
xTacio said that for them, “One of the first things she asks is how much money do I earn” would be a turn-off. User DJEBNice replied, “Nice that they give you that red flag so soon.”
#25. Cringe Tik Toks – 1.2K Votes
Last on our list but another popular response was, “Cringe tik toks” giving too much detail away. Perhaps somethings are best left unsaid!
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