She “Approves” Her Boyfriend’s Work Trips – So Why Has She Changed Her Mind About This One?

A Reddit user turned to the community to ask if he was in the wrong for asking his girlfriend’s permission to go on a 5-day work trip, leaving her at home alone with the kids.

Happy Family

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OP (32M) has a girlfriend (31F) and they share two children.

As an elementary school teacher, he is responsible for teaching 6-year olds.

Additionally, every year, the 11- and 12-year olds go on a five-day school trip from Monday to Friday.

Leaving the Kids Is Tricky

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OP has been an extra chaperone on this trip since he started working at the school.

However, he acknowledges that the situation has changed since he now has kids, and going away for a few days is no longer as easy as it used to be.

A Special Class of Children

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OP has a special connection with a particular group of students who are now 12 years old.

This group was his “first class” when they were only 6 years old, and as a result, they hold a special place in his heart.

A Fitting Farewell

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OP believes that fellow teachers will understand this sentiment.

He feels that accompanying these students on their upcoming school trip would be a fitting farewell as they transition into high school and beyond.

The Upcoming School Trip

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During the previous year’s school trip, OP was unable to attend because it coincided with the birth of his son.

However, he had hoped that this year he would be able to accompany the students on their trip once again.

No Objection

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OP has discussed his desire to attend the school trip with his girlfriend for an extended period, even prior to the birth of their son.

His girlfriend has never expressed any objections to his plan. 

A Regular Routine

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However, OP is aware that the decision ultimately depends on how well their baby is sleeping and eating at the time. If the baby is not sleeping well, he would not consider going on the trip.

Fortunately, this is not the case at present, as the family has established a good routine despite the demands of raising two young children.

He Wants to Go

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Several weeks ago, the principal of OP’s school asked him if he would like to attend the upcoming school trip.

OP asked for a day to think it over and discuss the matter with his girlfriend. He made it clear to her that he would only go if she felt comfortable with it.

Extra Help

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He even offered to help find additional support for her during the week and to assist with preparation, such as cooking dinner beforehand.

Given the Go Ahead

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OP asked his girlfriend multiple times if she had any reservations about him attending the trip and reassured her that he would understand if she did.

OP’s girlfriend did not explicitly ask him to stay home, so he gave the principal permission to proceed with his attendance on the school trip.

The principal found a substitute teacher for his class, and everything was arranged accordingly.

Now Things Have Changed

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OP informed his girlfriend that he would be going on the trip, and she initially had no issue with it. However, after the plans were set in motion, his girlfriend expressed her concerns.

She was upset that he would consider being away from her and the kids for five days and leaving her to care for their children alone.

Too Late

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OP understands that his girlfriend may feel abandoned by his decision to go on the school trip, but he also believes that he gave her ample opportunity to express her concerns before committing to the trip.

Nothing Can Happen Now

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He had already informed his principal and coworkers of his intention to go, and any change to this plan would be difficult to arrange. As a result, he is unsure if he would be in the wrong if he were to go on the trip.

On His Side

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Many Reddit users believe that OP is to blame in the situation. They argue that he gave his girlfriend ample opportunity to express her feelings before committing to the trip and even offered to help with preparations.

Being Unreasonable

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Some commenters suggest that his girlfriend is being unreasonable and overly dependent on him, especially considering that he will be away for only five days.

Others suggest that OP should try to arrange for friends or family to help out during his absence to ease his girlfriend’s burden.

Be Open and Honest

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A few commenters argue that the communication between OP and his girlfriend may not have been as clear as he thinks, and suggest that he should try to have an open and honest conversation with her to understand her concerns better.

Nonetheless, most users agree that OP is not in the wrong for wanting to attend the school trip.

Some suggest that he should offer his girlfriend a break from parenting in exchange for his time away.

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