She Was Called Pathetic for Refusing to Give Her Late-Sister’s Husband a Dress to Pass Along to Her Non-biological Daughter

A Reddit user asked the community if they were in the wrong for not giving her late sister’s husband a dress to pass along to their non-biological daughter.

She Lost Her Sister

The Original Poster’s (OP) sister passed away 17 years ago, leaving behind a daughter who was only 4 months old at the time, and a son who was 5 years old. She was diagnosed with cancer 8 months into her pregnancy and knew immediately that it was terminal.

After the birth of her daughter, she asked OP to keep her collection of fashionable dresses and her favorite jewelry for her children. OP has held onto these items for her niece and nephew ever since.

OP’s sister expressed that maybe her daughter wouldn’t be interested in her clothes, but if she was, she wanted OP to have them on hand.

She confided in OP that although she knew her husband loved her, she also knew that he would eventually remarry and she didn’t want any future children or spouse to have a claim on her possessions. She specifically wanted them for her own children.

She Only Wanted Her Biological Children to Have a Claim to Her Belongings

Additionally, she had a necklace that she knew her son would like in the future, and he eventually asked for it at the age of 15 and still wears it to this day. OP readily agreed to take care of these items for her sister’s children.

After OP’s sister passed away, her husband did indeed remarry. He informed their family about a year after her death that he had gotten another woman pregnant, and a few months later he announced their plans to marry. The situation was awkward for some time.

Although he remained part of their lives, they had not been close before his remarriage, and his new wife harbored some negative feelings toward her and her family. They now have two daughters together, a 14-year-old and a 9-year-old.

An Upcoming Dance

The 14-year-old daughter of OP’s late sister’s husband was excited about an upcoming school dance. She wanted to wear one of OP’s sister’s dresses because she saw a photo of OP’s sister wearing one and heard from her dad that OP had them.

The sister’s husband contacted OP, asking if she could send the dress over with her niece. However, OP refused to do so. 

In response, he asked OP’s nephew if he could obtain the dress for his daughter. The nephew vehemently refused, stating that his half-sister had no right to any of his mother’s dresses. While OP’s niece didn’t express anger like her cousin did, she did find the situation strange.

When OP’s sister’s husband learned that OP had refused to send over one of her sister’s dresses to his daughter for an upcoming school dance, he argued that it wasn’t fair to exclude her just because she wasn’t biologically related to OP’s sister.

She Would Only Give Her Sister’s Things to Her Children

He believed that his daughter was part of the family and should be allowed to wear the dress. However, OP stood her ground, telling him that she didn’t feel comfortable giving away the dress and that she intended to honor her sister’s wishes.

When he suggested that his daughter could pick a different dress from the collection, OP responded by saying that she wouldn’t allow her niece to have any of the dresses.

The sister’s husband accused OP of depriving his daughter and treating her unfairly, but OP insisted that the dresses were intended for her sister’s children only. The conversation ended with him calling her pathetic.

In this Reddit thread, most users agree that OP is not in the wrong and should honor her sister’s wishes. The late sister knew her husband would remarry and potentially neglect her possessions, and the husband’s request for the dress violates her wishes.

OP’s refusal to give away the dress is seen as a way to protect her sister’s belongings for her sister’s daughter, who is the only person with a rightful claim to the possessions.

Some users speculate that the husband’s request might be due to a lack of willingness to buy a new dress for his daughter, while others point out the potential emotional toll the situation may have on the husband’s new wife and their children.

Nonetheless, most users agree that OP should stick to her guns and keep the dresses for her sister’s children, regardless of any outside pressure or accusations from the husband.

What do you think? Was OP in the right or wrong here?

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