A parent’s role is to guide their children and love them unconditionally, unfortunately, that is not always the case. For one young woman, the relationship with her father has become strained, and she is questioning whether or not she is the one at fault.
Not the Ideal Parent
Our protagonist, the original poster (OP) is a 19-year-old who has recently come to the realization that her father is not the kind of person or parent she wants to be when she grows older.
Her father speaks to his own parents very poorly and gets angry with them very easily. However, if OP were to behave in the same way, she would be yelled at and grounded.
She wonders if she is simply going through a teenage phase or if her father’s behavior is genuinely problematic.
Her Father is Very Forgetful
OP’s father’s tendency to forget is one of his worst weaknesses. She says he never remembers what she says to him.
For instance, OP told her father months in advance that she would be going to a concert, and she continually reminded him. However, the night before last, he became extremely angry with OP for not telling him about the concert and threatened to not let her go.
Even though OP ended up attending in the end, she says it was still a difficult experience to face all the yelling and rage.
She Started Using a Calendar
As a result, OP and her family have set up a Google Calendar system so that they always have each other’s schedules available. This helps prevent situations from occurring in the future.
OP shared that the system includes everything she does, including all of her shifts at her part-time job, university schedule, exams, and any time she’s out with friends.
Every week, OP follows the same plan for her job and university and has been following it for more than six months.
Check the Calendar!
Despite this, her father still asks her what she has planned for the day, and she calmly says every single week that she has work or classes.
OP also playfully advises him to look up the answer on Google Calendar.
OP says that her father also never bothers to ask how her day at the university or her shift at work was after she gets home.
However, things took a turn when she ran out of patience and became irate with him.
He Doesn’t Show Enough Interest
OP told her father that she observes the fathers of her friends and how they are always aware of what her friends are doing and constantly inquire about how they are doing and how their day has been.
OP sincerely doesn’t recall her father ever doing it for her.
She acknowledges that there are many more things that her father has done throughout her life that have contributed to this conflict.
As a result, her father became enraged and yelled at her, telling her that from now on, their communication will only take place via Google Calendar.
He also threatened to move her out if she didn’t change her attitude.
Shape Up or Ship Out!
OP went to her room and is thinking whether she was wrong for shouting at her father.
She took to Reddit to ask their view and many sided with OP.
One Reddit user shared that they can totally understand this, and her father sees no effort and only anxiety-inducing behavior from his end and that can be crippling.
But another Redditor wrote, “It sounds like your dad doesn’t know how to talk to you, and asking what you’re up to was a way to converse. And in this case, you were not in the right.”
What do you think? Is OP correct for confronting her father or is she being overly dramatic?
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Source: Reddit