In a recent Reddit post, this woman found herself at odds with her mother after standing up for her sister. Here’s the full story.
A Strained Relationship
Grace, a 20-year-old woman, has always had a challenging relationship with her mother.
While they have had their good moments, her mother’s unpredictable moods often result in mean and unreasonable behavior.
As a child, Grace remembers her mother saying hurtful words such as “I love you, I just don’t like you right now” when she was upset with her or her siblings.
Although her mother has improved over the years, recent events reignited the strain in their relationship.
The incident occurred when her mother criticized Grace’s sister for banning political discussions around her child.
Being from a conservative background, her mother believed that sheltering the child would hinder her ability to navigate the real world.
In response, Grace defended her sister’s decision, asserting that it was not her mother’s place to interfere.
The conversation quickly escalated when her mother remarked that Grace would never understand because she would never be a “real” parent due to her being gay and the possibility of adopting children.
Feeling hurt and upset, Grace stormed off to hide her emotions.
However, her mother pursued her, expressing her love but failing to apologize for her hurtful words.
In an emotionally charged moment, Grace, without intending to seek revenge, uttered the same hurtful phrase her mother had often used towards her in the past.
Grace said, “I do love you, I just don’t like you right now.”
Following the heated exchange, Grace found herself bombarded with phone calls from her sobbing mother, her father yelling in the background, and her sister urging her to apologize, deeming her words as excessively mean.
Yet, Grace questioned whether she should apologize.
She recognized that her mother claimed not to remember using the hurtful phrase throughout her childhood.
However, it had left a lasting impact on Grace, unintentionally influencing her own vocabulary.
Face the Consequences
Grace took to Reddit to ask whether she was in the wrong in the situation and several Redditors sided with her saying that she was not wrong.
One Reddit user wrote, “If your mom cannot accept you as you are and if she thinks that she can be involved in everybody’s life around her, she has to face the consequences.”
Another Redditor commented, “I don’t think this is about your comment. This is about the entire episode. You didn’t roll over and just left. This upset the entire relationship dynamic. She’s now scrambling to get you back into the role she wants you in.”
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