In a recent post on Reddit, a woman shared how she felt when her husband’s Mother’s Day gift didn’t meet her expectations. She was wondering if she was wrong.
They Had an Agreement When It Came to Gifts
The Original Poster (OP) is a 27-year-old who has been married to her husband, Tom, for about eight years.
OP says that Tom is not the best at giving gifts, and the thought of doing so makes him anxious.
So, about a year ago, he asked OP if it would be alright if they could choose a present for OP together for Mother’s Day, Christmas, and her birthday.
OP said to him that even if he occasionally missed the mark, his presents were still incredibly nice and that she enjoyed them.
A Mother’s Day Gift Idea
Recently, Tom asked OP what she wanted after OP mentioned Mother’s Day was approaching.
Later that day, OP sent her husband two links to some custom recipe books that she thought would be nice.
As she was caring for their daughter, she didn’t have much time to look at the samples she sent.
However, she later texted him that they were just quick examples and that she had many other recipe books that she liked.
When he asked how she wanted it inscribed, OP replied that they could look at it and discuss it when he got home.
She Told Him What She Wanted
When Tom arrived home, they had a small conversation about it. OP pointed out that the two recipe books she sent him were simple ones, not the ones she would choose.
OP mentioned that she had some saved what she truly liked if Tom wanted to see. He replied that he’d check it after their daughter went to bed.
But he didn’t check it.
She Left It in His Hands
As a result, OP felt bad, and she mentioned that she doesn’t want to keep reminding him since it feels like she’s pleading with him to remember her, and it devalues the gift.
So OP kept quiet.
This morning, OP saw that he had ordered the first sample recipe book she sent him when she was reviewing their spending.
The order was placed after they had a face-to-face discussion, during which she stated that she didn’t like the ones she sent.
He Hadn’t Listened
OP was hurt, and she asked the Reddit community whether she would be wrong for confronting her husband.
OP says that Tom is a lovely man, but he’s not the best listener, and one of OP’s common problems is feeling ignored. So she’s not sure if that’s why seeing the order hurt her feelings or if she’s simply being overly sensitive.
Redditors were split in their opinions.
One Redditor said that OP was not wrong and her husband didn’t listen to her at all, bought her something she didn’t want, and didn’t even bother to look at what she wanted.
But another Reddit user wrote, “You are a very confusing person to me. I don’t understand why you’d send links to things you don’t want. Then later say you don’t want them. And now be upset you’re getting what you don’t want. Be direct. Be straightforward. I am a woman, but I feel like your husband in regards to gifting.”
So what do you think? Is she wrong, or is she just being dramatic?
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