She loves her cat more than her family. What’s wrong with that? Her family aren’t happy, so she took to Reddit to find out if she was wrong. Here’s the full story.
Her Parents Don’t Support Her
The Original Poster (OP) is a 26-year-old whose parents divorced when she was 12. Five years after the divorce, her relationship with her parents severely deteriorated after she came out.
By that time, her mother was already dating another man at the time, and when OP was 17 years old, her mother gave birth to her stepbrother.
After graduating a year later, OP moved away from her hometown to pursue her studies and eventually a job.
Moving Away From Her Family
The fact that OP was able to live in another place without them and visit her family occasionally was her biggest accomplishment up to that point.
OP and her mother were eventually able to mend their relationship, although it was never the same.
The truth is that OP doesn’t love being in her company, and she doesn’t open up to her about her life.
She Can’t Forgive Her Mother for Her Lack of Support
OP said she could never truly forgive her mother for the extreme desolation and loneliness she felt as a lesbian teen living in a town that was not very accepting of LGBT people.
OP says her stepbrother is also a subject of her mother’s coldness. He has already picked up some of OP’s mother’s narrow-minded opinions, not specifically about gay people, but generally.
The story began when her mother’s ex-boyfriend/OP’s stepbrother’s father passed away two years ago.
The Passing of Her Stepfather
Though OP didn’t really want to, OP proposed that they move to the place she lived in so that she could help them with the costs and OP’s stepbrother would have a better future because, after the death, OP’s mother and brother really had no one left in their hometown.
Eventually, they agreed and moved in with OP.
OP doesn’t spend time with them very much. They occasionally eat supper together, but most of the time, OP goes to work and the gym and arrives home after her mother and brother have gone to bed.
They Moved In With Her
OP takes her stepbrother to the movies once a month, but it’s always at her mother’s request. She always made it clear to them that she likes to be independent and that they should not bother her, and they all agreed.
However, her mother was not pleased with OP’s lack of interest in them, even though she had grown somewhat accustomed to it and didn’t put any pressure on OP.
The story took a turn when the family recently adopted a kitten.
A Pet Cat
OP loves her and plays with her all the time. OP said she even adjusted her schedule to accommodate her kitten’s requirements.
As a result, OP’s mother has become increasingly irritated with OP, and she confronted her about it.
She stated it’s quite upsetting to watch OP prioritize a cat above her fatherless stepbrother since he needs attention more than ever, and no child should grow up believing that they are less significant than a pet.
OP says she doesn’t believe her brother is any less significant than anyone else, and she does love him in her own way. But OP just can’t connect with her mother as a result of her coldness during her childhood.
OP felt bad about what happened, and she took to Reddit to ask whether she was wrong for preferring her cat.
Several Redditors sided with OP and said that she is not wrong and a cat offers emotional support and unconditional love and a cat doesn’t treat you poorly.
One Reddit user wrote, “You already give them far more than they deserve (attention and money). You are not the cause of the problem with this relationship: she is. I would point that out. Be clear, be blunt.”
Another Redditor commented, “Seems to me it’s Mom’s job to pay attention to Brother and make him feel loved and special. She dropped the ball with you and is fumbling now with your step brother. Mom needs to step up and contribute for once. This responsibility does not change just because you have found something to do.”
So what is your opinion? Do you think OP was wrong in this situation?
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