A woman took to Reddit to ask if she was in the wrong for calling out her best friend for not reaching out when she was suffering after her neighbor’s dog died.
Close Friends
The Original Poster (OP) and Jen have known each other since high school and have always been friends.
After a few years of drifting apart, they reconnected when they were 20.
A Dark Time
When Jen was 22, she went through an ordeal and disappeared for a while. OP explains it was a dark time for her, but “she was blessed with beautiful children during that time.”
During this time, OP moved away from their hometown years ago and now lives about 3000 kilometers away from Jen.
They’ve Rekindled Their Friendship
Despite the distance, OP and Jen have rekindled their friendship.
They have been communicating for at least 20 hours a week for the past year. OP has even sent her and her children gifts and money worth close to $3k in the past year.
Honest Friends
They are very honest with each other, and OP’s income-to-expense ratio is much better than Jen’s.
OP’s Supportive Role in Jen’s Financial Struggles
Jen struggles with her finances and sometimes doesn’t prioritize as well as she could, but OP is always there to help her out.
They Had Big Summer Plans
OP won a contest and scored some tickets to a festival in another city this summer. Jen has never been on a proper vacation, girls’ weekend, festival, or road trip in her adult life.
Creating Lasting Memories
OP has saved enough to fly her there for two weeks and entertain them with a festival, camping, a sporting event, a city fair, and concerts.
They have been planning this trip for six months and are both excited about it.
She’s a Huge Dog Lover
OP loves dogs and has two of her own. She would invite the neighbor’s dog to play with her dogs almost daily.
However, two weeks ago, the neighbor’s dog was over for a playdate, and he jumped the fence for the first time ever. Six minutes later, he got fatally injured from a collision with a moving van.
It was a tragic incident, and OP was devastated. The dog was her dog’s best friend, and she loved him so much.
Her Friend Was Super Busy
Jen was working at the time of the incident on a Saturday at around 2 pm. OP texted her what had happened, and Jen asked if she could call her on her break.
OP agreed. However, Jen only called once at 1 am, and she didn’t leave a voicemail or send any texts.
Was She Right to Blow Up at Her?
The next day at 8 pm, she texted OP, asking how she was doing.
Considering the circumstances, OP was less than happy with Jen’s nonchalance and called her out for not reaching out sooner.
Is This Bad Behavior?
Jen explained that she fell asleep, but OP was not satisfied with that explanation.
She told Jen that she wanted to believe she was partying because that would be easier to work on, and she was almost more upset that she was so relaxed over there while she couldn’t even breathe over here.
They tried to communicate throughout the week, but Jen was defensive and began ignoring OP. She said she would reach out, but then she flaked again.
She Has Had Enough
To make matters worse, Jen blocked OP and essentially broke up with her. They are not friends anymore, and their summer plans are off.
OP is in shock, and she can’t believe what has happened.
Who’s in the Wrong?
Now, OP is left wondering if she was the jerk for calling out her best friend for not reaching out when she suffered the tragic loss of a dog.
She feels hurt and betrayed by Jen’s actions, and she can’t help but wonder if she was wrong to expect more from her best friend.
Redditors Didn’t Take Kindly to Her Story
Reddit reacted to this woman’s story, but the responses were not in her favor, with many people saying that OP was overreacting and expecting too much from her friend.
They pointed out that Jen had made an effort to console OP and that she was not responsible for managing her feelings.
She Had Her Own Issues
They told OP that she couldn’t force people to console her and that Jen had made an effort to reach out.
They also pointed out that Jen was a low-income single mother with a drinking problem and possible history of significant trauma and that she couldn’t drop everything to console OP whenever she wanted.
They also argued that the death of a neighbor’s dog would not trigger the reaction that OP was hoping for from most people in the world! In short, they concluded that OP was the jerk in the situation.
It Wasn’t Her Dog, After All
But really, what did she expect? The situation is awful, but it wasn’t her dog that had passed; it was a neighbor’s dog.
Blowing up on your best friend for not being emotionally involved enough when they have so much on their plate otherwise is bad form.
She Should Apologize
Hopefully, Jen forgives this woman, as it seems like she loves her friend a lot – but she also needs to take account of her actions and apologize profusely.
What do you think? Who is in the wrong here?
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