She couldn’t bare to see her mother with her new boyfriend after the heartbreaking loss of her father.
She Lost Her Father
Losing a loved one to cancer is a deeply painful experience, as the Original Poster (OP) tragically found out.
Her father battled cancer for 1.5 years before passing away, and despite a period of marital difficulties leading up to his illness, her parents put away their differences during his diagnosis.
Her mother stood by her father’s side, providing care and support throughout his challenging journey.
Her Mother Started Dating
Four months after her father’s death, her mother began seeing someone.
OP refers to him as her mother’s “friend” but expresses a strong personal disinterest in him, even today.
She believed it was too soon for her mother to start dating and expressed her concerns to her.
Recently, her mother started bringing her boyfriend to family events and parties, creating an uncomfortable atmosphere.
While nobody openly discussed the issue, the tension grew.
She Tried to Include Him in the Family
During a family Easter party at OP’s parent’s house, the boyfriend appeared unexpectedly, making OP feel particularly awkward.
It was a moment for prayer, where the family remembered their lost loved ones. OP was upset to see her mother holding hands with her boyfriend while remembering her father.
Now, her family is planning a large vacation in June. The flights and accommodations have already been booked for months.
OP learned from a cousin that her mother intends to bring her boyfriend along.
An Upcoming Family Vacation
OP then called her mother to voice her concerns, only to have the subject swiftly changed, leaving her feelings overlooked.
Due to the addition of the boyfriend, the costs per person for the holiday have increased, which added more fuel to the fire.
Among the 20 family members attending the trip, nobody, except her mother, wanted the boyfriend to join.
Despite this, he was set to stay in the same condo, creating an ongoing awkward situation throughout the entire week-long vacation.
Nobody Wanted Him There
As a result, OP has decided to cancel the trip and stay at home. She’s now seeking advice from Reddit to see if she made the right decision.
One user hit out at OP, saying, “She stayed with him through his cancer and helped him, and now what, you’re mad that she has a chance at happiness again? How many years of her life does she have to sacrifice before you decide it’s ok for her to be happy?”
Others believe the mother was being hurtful, stating that she “Needs to respect where you are in your grief and recognize that while she is comfortable moving on, it will naturally make someone’s child feel uncomfortable if they see them being ‘replaced.'”
Do you believe the decision to back out of the vacation was justified? Let us know in the comments.
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