A trans man has asked for Reddit’s help after his sister told him NOT to go shirtless while swimming in the pool at a family BBQ. It quickly became a family drama, and the BBQ was ruined.
Invited to a Family BBQ
Morgan, a trans man, was invited to a family hangout by his sister and her husband.
He was under the impression that it would just be their side of the family.
That was not the case. The husband’s side of the family was also invited. Creating an unexpected problem.
An Unexpected Request
When it was time to relax and have some fun in the pool, he changed into his swimming trunks.
He was about to step outside shirtless, like the other men, when his sister stopped him.
She Asked Him Not to Swim Shirtless
She told him to put his shirt back on and swim with it on.
Morgan was taken aback as this had never happened before.
Why should he swim with a shirt on when other men at the BBQ were shirtless?
Hiding His Scars
His sister, however, said she wanted him to keep his shirt on because of his scars.
Morgan explained that the scars were from his top (chest) surgery four years ago.
In fact, the scars were barely visible at the time and the faded parts were well hidden by his pectorals. It would take a proper inspection to see them.
Secret Shame Comes to the Surface
Upon further confrontation about the scars, his sister admitted that she didn’t want her in-laws to know he is trans.
In-Laws Could Judge Her
She claimed to be uncomfortable and was worried about how her husband’s family would perceive her if they found out about him being transgender.
No Big Deal
She also said it wasn’t a big deal, making light of his feelings about the issue.
Angry and Hurt
Morgan, who had been transitioning for eight years, was hurt by his sister’s request and felt angry.
Unexpected the Ordinary
Besides, he didn’t bring an extra shirt as he wasn’t expecting to swim with a shirt on.
Decision to Leave
He decided to change back into his shirt and leave soon after.
Everyone was surprised he wanted to leave so early, his mum especially.
A Rift In the Family
Morgan’s dad called him aside to know what was wrong.
He told his dad about his sister’s unexpected request and left.
About an hour after, his sister, now upset, called him. She had gotten into a rift with their dad over the issue.
A Family’s Strong Support
It turns out the whole family didn’t take it well either.
They all decided to leave early, ruining the BBQ hangout.
His Sister Reacts Angrily
Morgans’s sister was angry and thought everything could have been avoided if he had done what she asked.
She claims he ruined the BBQ with his drama.
Did He Overreact?
Several Redditors found his sister’s request insensitive. Entertn9710 wrote, “Why would he have to explain his scars? Just go to the pool, don’t ask questions about other people’s bodies because it’s none of your business, and enjoy the bbq. That’s much easier for everyone.”
Verity_Fox also felt his sister’s request was transphobic and said, “You were right to call out that transphobic behavior. ‘Didn’t want her in-laws to look at her differently’ makes it sound like she was saying she was ashamed to have a trans brother.”
Respect and Grace
Another Redditor said, “You respected her wishes, you kept your shirt on and left. Your parents were offended by her behavior, and they left. The only person, your sister, has to blame is herself. Kudos to you and your parents.”
Massive Threat to US Housing Market Hides In Plain Sight – Should You Be Worried, “Heck, Yes!”
Millions of mortgages could potentially default in the coming years, causing the U.S. Housing Market to plummet. Already, house prices are falling, and sales are struggling. Massive Threat to US Housing Market Hides In Plain Sight – Should You Be Worried? “Heck, Yes!”
Revenge: After He Betrayed Her, She Waited Until the Kids Were Grown to Rock Her Husband’s World!
This tale of betrayal and revenge shows that sometimes playing the long game is the best way to hit someone where it hurts. She discovered the ultimate betrayal and waited a decade to show him he should never have messed with her! Revenge: After He Betrayed Her, She Waited Until the Kids Were Grown to Rock Her Husband’s World! See How
Sugar Daddy Transforms This Girl’s Life by Paying off Her Debt, but Was This All Too Good to Be True?
Ever wondered what happens when you reply to scammers and weird Instagram DMs? This woman finds out when she doesn’t ignore a strange offer from a genuine-seeming guy…but soon pays the price of being in his debt! Sugar Daddy Transforms This Girl’s Life by Paying off Her Debt, but Was This All Too Good to Be True?
Toxic Workplace: She Was Fired From Her Job Without Warning. Now Everything Has Fallen Apart They Want Her Back!
Nothing is worse than being earmarked for being fired! When management has decided it is your time to go. That’s precisely what happened to this woman; luckily, her work paid the price! Toxic Workplace: She Was Fired From Her Job Without Warning. Now Everything Has Fallen Apart, They Want Her Back!
“No Ring, No Bring” What Kind of Wedding Guest Policy Is That Wait Until You See the Friend’s Reaction!
A recent Reddit post tells the story of how an old friendship fell apart after this man stood up for himself against an outdated wedding rule. “No Ring, No Bring!” What Kind of Wedding Guest Policy Is That? Wait Until You See the Friend’s Reaction!
The post This Sister Is Ashamed of Her Transgender Brother and Insists He Swims With His Shirt ON! first appeared on Wealthy Living.
Featured Image Credit: Shutterstock / Cast Of Thousands. The people shown in the images are for illustrative purposes only, not the actual people featured in the story.
Names have been changed: Source: Reddit