In a heartrending tale of self-discovery and parental rejection, a 19-year-old male-to-female (MTF) individual turned to Reddit for solace and advice after years of enduring a harsh and controlling environment at home. Despite earning her own money and trying to live true to her identity, her parents continued to rob her of the basic right to express her femininity.
The original poster (OP) is a 19-year-old MTF (male-to-female) who came out when they were 15.
Presenting as Feminine
Since then, OP has made every effort to present herself as more feminine.
Her Parents Insisted It Was a Phase
But when OP’s parents found out, they yelled at OP, saying that it was just a phase.
Banned Her From Girly Things
They also took all of her feminine products away.
Most of the feminine items OP had up until the age of 18 were gifts or things brought from birthday money from friends, but every time, they took it away without telling anything.
She Tried to Hide Her Identity
OP was told that she couldn’t dress like a girl in their home. Since then, OP was only allowed to conduct herself in a socially acceptable manner according to her parent’s norms.
Now She’s an Adult She Can Buy Her Own Things
However, since OP started college at age 18, she has been using her own money to buy dresses, makeup, and other feminine items.
She Was Discovered
All was good until OP’s mother discovered what she had been doing.
Mom Began Ranting
She demanded that OP give her everything while going on a homophobic rant.
She’s Under Harsh Restrictions
She had strict regulations about what OP could and could not have at the house, so OP put everything in a close friend’s dorm – away from her parents’ prying eyes.
Her Mom Stole Her Belongings
Even though everything OP had was purchased with her own money, her mother still continued to steal her things.
Threatened With Homelessness
She even forced OP to give everything to her under threat of being thrown out of the house!
She is Keeping Up the Act
Despite the fact that OP only attends college and has limited financial resources, OP followed her rules and acted like a boy at home, but her mother still thought it was better to take away OP’s possessions.
She’s So Anxious
OP feels disrespected, stressed, and anxious because she can’t live her life according to her own preferences.
Should She Feel Guilty?
But OP says even if she follows the rules at home, she feels wrong for making her parents sad.
OP took to Reddit to share her experience and ask if she was in the wrong for not following their parent’s rules.
Her Parents Are Missing Out
Several Redditors gave their full support to OP, assuring her that she was doing nothing wrong.
Present Yourself Freely, but Not Too Freely
One Reddit user wrote, “You should be allowed to present yourself as you like, as long as you’re not violating public indecency laws (that is, being in public with your private parts visible). If your parents wanted you to dress with a level of formality appropriate to the occasion, that’d be a reasonable request (eg, not showing up to a nice restaurant in a bikini top and short shorts).”
They Have a Daughter
Another Reddit user commented, “Hang in there sweetie, you are perfect as you are and your parents don’t know what they’re missing – an awesome DAUGHTER!”
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