Hold on tight! This story of how this guy’s girlfriend ghosted him after five years of friendship is a real emotional rollercoaster. He needed to get it off his chest and had been struggling to process it – talking about it helped him with that.
Meet the Main Characters
Meet Ben who had been in a relationship with his girlfriend (J) for two years.
They were best friends for three years before dating and have been through a lot together.
Traumatic Life Story
J has sadly experienced a number of traumatic life events, including being mugged, being drugged by someone with her friend, and having a verbally abusive father.
Throughout all these events, Ben has been a constant source of support for her, even when she tried to push him away multiple times.
She has struggled with depression, anxiety, and her mental health in general, as long as he has known her.
Things Take a Turn for the Worse
Recently, J was mugged and had her phone stolen. This was when things started going south for our storyteller.
She Went Missing
After the mugging, J went missing and wasn’t talking to Ben.
She wasn’t talking to any of her family, her sister even contacted him asking where she was, but he didn’t have any answers.
She Makes Contact
Eventually, she contacted him through her friend’s phone and said she was fine and that Ben shouldn’t worry.
She also mentioned that the mugging triggered her anxiety again, and she was thinking about going back to a mental health facility she’d stayed at previously.
Days went by, and Ben still hadn’t heard from her.
He began to worry that something bad had happened to her in her apartment.
He couldn’t go to her because the building guards would only let him in the complex if he called her first, and for some reason, she wasn’t using the spare phone he had given her.
Not Her Usual Self
One day, Ben saw J at a club with her friend and two random guys.
She looked different from her usual self, with unkempt hair and a slightly dirty and unironed shirt.
He confronted her, and her friend dragged her away, shouting at him. She didn’t say a word the entire time and looked like a deer caught in the headlights.
Five days later, she sent Ben a message on Instagram, apologizing for ghosting him. It had been over three weeks at this point.
She said it was because she didn’t know how to break up with him without losing the friendship.
Ben found this confusing because she had also been avoiding speaking to her family.
Hurt and Confused
Her actions hurt him. Ben felt that he deserved at least a conversation since they had been best friends for three years before dating.
He had been worried about her for weeks, calling and texting everyone in her life, and all she could do was send one message on Instagram! He thought there was more to her story, but he didn’t know for sure.
Ben thought that she’d been incredibly unfair to him. When she got drugged, her friend abandoned her, and it hurt her so much.
Ben was there to hold her while she was crying, and he was always there for her. So she knew what it was like to be ghosted by someone you care about, and yet she still did it to him.
Losing His Best Friend
The hardest part of this breakup for Ben was losing his best friend.
He had developed a habit of checking their chats every time he picked up his phone, and now he had to delete the chats and her number.
It was tough for him, but he knew he needed to move on.
A Tough Conversation
A few weeks later, Ben messaged her asking to meet up with him, so he could finally get some understanding and closure.
They had a bottle of tequila and a very tough conversation.
During this conversation, she dropped a bombshell on Ben.
She told him she began avoiding him after losing her phone because she had found someone else.
A 43-year-old rich guy who sent her money!
Ben couldn’t believe it – “I knew she had daddy issues, but being a golddigger is new!”
This information hit him hard, and he spent the next few days reeling from it. He was hurt, angry, and disappointed.
But he knew he had to move on.
One positive thing came from this relationship – this experience made him realize he had abandonment issues from his own father never being around.
He always stuck around and tried to help people no matter how bad it got and how much it affected him because he didn’t want to abandon them as he was.
A Painful Process
He knew he needed to work through his abandonment issues and learn to let go of people who weren’t good for him.
It was a painful process, but he was determined to come out stronger on the other side! At least now he can finally start moving on.
Reddit users were there to offer this man support.
One said, “I’m sorry man. That’s never fun news to hear. I’ve seen enough of these to bet that she’ll come back around sooner or later. Just remember the sting that she left you with. You’re way better off without all of that and deserve someone who cares and loves you the way you care and love back. All the best.”
What do you think about this guy’s story? Have you ever had someone ghost you, or have you ever ghosted someone? Share in the comments!
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