This friend is left lost and confused when her online posts causes upset with BFF. She was just doing what they’d always done, yes it wasn’t nice, but it was funny! Can they move on and grow up or has the friendship run its course?
Friends Forever
The Original Poster (OP) and her friend are both 18 years old and have been friends since the second grade.
Ups and Downs
Despite many ups and downs, they were pretty close. Her best friend was the only one in OP’s friend group that remained when she had to break up with them in February due to pointless drama.
Cringeworthy Cousin
They shared a common interest, making fun of her cousin.
He’s a typical high school guy, a bit cringe and always trying to act like a gangster despite living in the suburbs. OP and her friend have made jokes about him in the past, always adding to each other’s quips.
It’s just something they do, and it’s always been harmless fun.
End of an Era
But now OP believes that their friendship may be coming to an end.
Things took a turn for the worse when the friend posted a picture of the cousin on her Instagram story, throwing up gang signs.
Did She Go Too Far?
OP replied with a simple “Ewww,” which is something they always say about him when they’re joking around.
Negative Reaction
However, her friend didn’t take kindly to the comment, telling her to stop being a hater and that she was annoying.
She Was Confused
OP was confused and tried to explain that she was just joking around, but her friend didn’t want to hear it.
The Joke Had Changed
OP replied that she was just saying the stuff they both used to joke about and that her friend should know she was joking.
Clarifying Intentions
OP went on to say that she has never said the cousin is a bad person, and she is just joking around about the stuff.
Stop Being a Hater!
As a response, her friend has said to stop being a hater as it gets annoying, and if OP doesn’t like hanging out with her cousin, then stop being friends with her and him.
Denying the Past!
She went on to say that she had previously ordered OP to stop because it had gotten to her, but OP said that is untrue because she always laughs when they are having fun.
She Couldn’t Understand the Change
And OP says that if she had told her, she would have stopped it without a doubt if it had offended her.
OP said that when they are making jokes about the cousin, she never speaks poorly of him, and instead, she always just laughs and concurs with her.
Standing Up for Family
Standing up for family is something OP can understand, but if they are really close best friends, then she shouldn’t be taking this literally.
Break Up Imminent
OP says that her friend’s statement of “just stop being friends with me” indicates that she is actually ready to break up with OP easily.
Jokes at Someone Else’s Expense
OP took to Reddit to ask their opinions and whether she was wrong for making a joke.
Most Redditors didn’t support OP and said that she was wrong in making fun of people and not understanding their feelings.
Just Stop, Apologize, and Move On!
One comment read, “It’s bad enough you constantly belittle this kid in private even if he seems a bit cringe to you. Was your comment on her story something that only she could see? In any event, you typed that if she had told you earlier to stop you would have. Well, she’s definitely telling you to stop now, so what’s the problem?
Apologize and move on. You sound like you’re not good at reading other people’s emotions, you’re casually cruel, and you’re in the wrong. You’re the one who might want to think about working on your character so you do better as an adult.”
Understandable
But one Reddit user said she is slightly older than OP and had a similar situation.
The Redditor shared that she understands OP’s situation and that OP was not wrong for what she did, and OP’s friend needs to get checked on why she came at OP like that, as OP did nothing wrong.
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This post is based on Reddit but the names have been changed.